A.R.
Hi M.:
I am also a breastfeeding SAHM Mom to a five month old. I totally understand what it is like to feel so in love with your baby but needing help.I feel the more help I get the better Mom I am. :-)
Here are my thoughts based on my experience:
Like most things, until you experience it, you don't know what it is like to walk in another's shoes. With that being said,I think that men don't have a clue how much work that it is to breastfeed and to pump and to essentially be on call 24/7 caring for a baby.....until they have to do it or at least come close. So, here is what I would suggest. Give yourself a day off and your husband experience caring for the baby!! On the weekend, pick a day and have your husband take care of the baby ENTIRELY on his own. (If he needs to call his Mom, so be it, what can I say.;)) In order not to make extra (pumping) work for yourself, arrange your day that you only have to supply one bottle of breast milk or (if you prefer) you can tell your husband that you will only be there to breatfeed and HE will handle all else. I mean ALL else.(I suggest going out because he needs to work it out on his own and if you are there he will be tempted to ask you for help.) So, wake up do the morning feeding and then when you are finished wake your husband up and he is now in charge...hand over the baby. You go take a bubble bath or go to the health club and be back to do the next feeding which is completely doable because your are probably on a 3 hour schedule. Do the 10am feeding and then leave, while you are gone, have him feed the bottle of expressed breast milk at 1pm and be back for the 4pm feeding. You now have a 5 hour window to do whatever you want!! Also, do something for yourself, see a friend, go to a spa, hang out at a bookstore. Don't be tempted to run errands to Costco! :-) When you get home do the 4pm feeding and by this time, you might really be missing both your baby and your husband or you might want your husband to handle the bath too.
This will give your husband a really great perspective on the resposibilities involved with fully taking care of the baby when there is just one parent at home. Also, it will enable your husband to feel more confident taking care of your baby (which I am guessing is why he has his Mom come over to help). After handling all of this on his own, he will probably think twice about that trip. If not, at least you know that you can go and get a day off on the weekend if you need to as well.
Good luck and take care,
A.