I'm not really sure what to tell you. I guess I would recommend that you spend more time together, teaching her skills you want her to know around the house. Real life stuff. I went out to dinner tonight with my 19 year old son. We have a very close relationship, we talk about everything. However, we also homeschool, and our children don't date. When they are prepared for marriage, then they will start looking more seriously for a spouse. Until then, they concentrate on things they need to be doing to be able to be prepared for a spouse. I know that is different than most people. But, we're very happy with this arrangement. Even the children are. But, all their friends think this way also, so it is normal to them. (and they have a ton of friends) They get together with their friends frequently in large groups to eat dinner, play games, go to the orchestra, play hockey, go skiing, etc. They aren't missing out on these social opportunities, they just do it in the context of friendships rather than in lust or relationships that they aren't ready for. So, I'm not sure about what to tell you about the bf thing. It sounds like you are fine with that though. I guess what I'm trying to say about the dating thing is that we aren't displaced in their lives by girlfriends and boyfriends. One day, we will take a backseat to a wife or husband, as is good and right. But, until then, we have a relationship with them that is extremely close and open.