E.,
I give my boy fruit in the morning (around 7am), generally he eats 1 jar, and after a while the bottle (to wash the fruit down and because he is thirsty) about 6oz.
The next meal (snack) will be 8/9 oz bottle.
The following one (around lunch), a jar of meat or chicken mixed with a jar of any veggie and some cereal (I use oatmeal) and water. Sometimes I use the jar where chicken and beef are already mixed with some type of vegetable.
Generally an hour or so after this meal he gets thirsty and I give him the bottle (8oz will do). This is the afternoon snack.
The next meal will be a jar of any veggie mixed with ceral and water and, if still hungry, a jar of fruit (plain, not mixed with cereal). This is dinner.
If he wakes up during the night, 8/9 oz bottle will keep him full and hydrated (and he'll go right back to sleep).
I hope this works for your little girl, let me know if I can help some more.
S