What Is Your Philosophy on This One?

Neither.....I treat people the way THEY want to be treated. Which takes a little more effort. I don't assume people want to be treated the way I want to. My way isn't the best way or the only way. I try and take the time to get to know others and go from their.

I treat others the way I want to be treated.

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt... I never know what is going on in THEIR lives, and maybe a little politeness and a smile from me will help them with their day.

Although, I will admit that there are times when I have a bad day, and will be rude right back to someone... But in general, I try to show kindness to others.

Treating others as they treat you is simply payback - tit for tat, and sometimes escalating into all-out brawls....

It works better to treat others as they should be treated, as I'd wish them to treat me. Sometimes it's, well, not too hard. Sometimes it takes a WHOLE lot of grace! Sometimes it takes L. them at more of a distance.

If I treat them better than I think they deserve, what of it? There are more people than I realize who have treated me better than I have deserved.

Ttreating others as they treat you comes from either a place of hurt or pettiness. And certainly from a place of immaturity.

It's always better to take the high road. And typcially there is less traffic, what with everyone being petty out there!!!!!

We give gifts, not for what we receive, but to show OUR thanks/celebration/respect etc.
We treat everyone with basic respect and common courtesy.

We then can select who we choose to associate with on a more intimate level. But that doesn't change how we treat others on a base level.

I actually, however, prefer what a previous boss of mine referred to as "the platinum rule" - which is treat others in the manner in which they want to be treated. Not how they treat you or how you want to be treated, but consider that what they want is different than what you want, and act accordingly.
I have always thought "the golden rule" was always a little "off" or maybe just used by people inappropriately. My mom is an a$$ and "swears by the golden rule", which basically means she can't understand why not everyone else is like her, in terms of giving gifts and traveling and what her priorities are. Alternately, I work in a place with a high level of people with Asperger's and even though you might be a hugger, you can't go around hugging people and/or infrigning on their personal space or they get nutty. So you may like a more personal workspace... that doesn't mean everyone does. etc etc etc.

I try to be kind to everyone. If people don't treat me right I will not hang out with them. If I'm forced to be with them (i.e. work) I will be nice but try to spend the least amount of time possible with that person. I think it's unhealthy to let negativity breed. Sometimes being nice to someone will make them nicer in return.

In casual life, I treat others as I want to be treated. Always. There is nothing worse than being compassionate to another person in any respect and having that extended kindness returned with spite and anger and disrespect.

My oldest daughter calls it the "retail syndrome". We both know what it's like to be on the other end and when we're in a drive thru, or in a store, we are almost overboard with courtesy, kindness and empathy to the people that are helping us.

Now when I'm at my store, working on the floor and I have a customer that is rude or nasty or just simply completely riding on the i'maspecialsnowflake!train ... I go over to the other side and can be so cloying, overly honey sweet that I really hope they leave with bleeding cavities just from talking to me.

I seriously believe that everyone should have to 1) be a nanny for at least one year before having their own child and 2) work at least 6 months in some form of retail before going on to whatever career aspirations they might have. It could, and would humble quite a few of us, just saying.

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Good question...I had to think on this one. I try to treat everyone nice. But, sometimes that just doesn't work. Then, if I can, I avoid them. There is enough drama without adding to it.

Treat others as THEY want to be treated and how you want to be treated.

And if they treat you badly, treat them politely, but you don't have to go the extra mile. Be yourself, but be polite. No need to sink to their level if they're jerks.

It's a different perspective, but here's an example; if you are an outgoing huggy person and your friend is an introvert - DON'T hug them. That's how YOU like it. Find a way to show your feelings in a way that makes them comfortable.

My philosophy is to treat people with respect. If they are toxic and treat me poorly, I gracefully extract myself from our relationship and don't hang around them any longer. Consequently, there is no reason to philosophize on how I should treat them because they are no longer a part of my life.

(If a mean girl falls in the forest and no one is there to hear her crying, does anyone really care?)

I try to spread kindness wherever I go.......

The former, of course.

Maybe by treating someone kindly they will learn and then treat others kindly, also.

I tend to treat people as I prefer to be treated. Problem is it only seems to work with people with similar personalities.

Oh, I would love to think I always treat people the way they (not I) want to be treated. But I am only human, and I know I don't always measure up.

My husband and I sometimes have to remind ourselves of our differences. When he's upset and walks away, he wants to be left alone, if only for a few minutes to calm down. If I'm upset and want to walk away it means I want him to chase after me. Childish, I know, but I recently realized that about myself.

I think I strayed off topic, so to really answer your question ...

I think it's important to really try to treat people with respect, no matter how they treat others. That being said, I know I often fall short of the goal.

When someone is very disrespectful towards me (and I mean consistently, not once or twice or on a bad day) I still try to treat them with respect but keep my distance.

One of my coworkers was very disrespectful towards me my first year. But I had to work with him 5 hours each day. So I chose to be polite but keep my distance. It wasn't easy, but I liked all other aspects of my job, had earned the respect of my other coworkers and needed the money. Over the past 18 months he has improved greatly. I still keep my distance. I am polite and try to joke with him when I can, but my guard is still up. Nevertheless, he is a human being who deserves to be treated with respect.

First one then the other depending on how I am treated in return. If I'm treated poorly then I quickly become cold and bitey and leave as soon as possible.

But everyone get the best right off, then it's up to them how long that lasts.

I ask myself this question frequently.

I try to treat others as I want to be treated, though I'd sure like to be immature and treat others how they treat me. I don't do this, though, because I try to do the right thing, if I can.

You treat people the right way, regardless of how they treat you. It's the philosophy I live by and what I teach my kids. Two wrongs don't make a right. It's pretty simple.

I let people dictate how they should be treated. It usually doesn't take long for their true colors to shine through.

Neither.

I do what I feel is best at the time. Which varies considerably.

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For example (I love using my ex as an ex):

My ex lied to the court... But I didn't. Just because he was doing this to me, doesn't mean it's okay for me to do it, too.

My ex made the past year a scheduling nightmare. So, when he turned around and asked for a favor regardi the schedule, I didn't blink rice before saying "nope". If he'd shown any regard at all for my schedule, I might have been inclined to unbend. But I had been super flexible all year, until I needed something, and he refused. Turnaround is fair play. It oiled have been a huge problem in my life, and there was no give & take. Just take. So he got nothin'

Same person... Two different answers.

I really DO go one a case by case basis with everyone/everything.

I'm less interested in "fair" and more interested in "just". Justice is rarely fair.

Both. I treat people the way I would want to be treated but if you screw me over, I'm not going to keep making nice.

I try to do unto others as I would want them to do unto me, the Golden Rule, from the mouth of God.

I also believe in being honest with them and upfront. I HATE passive aggressive behavior.

I'll be assertive. I do not run from confrontation. I do avoid drama that serves no purpose.

Well, I suspect everyone will claim to treat others the way they want to be treated.
You give two options. It's possible to "be" the former and still not allow yourself to be used, abused or taken advantage of.
I do believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt but if an individual or family member continually behaves badly, you CAN live the person but draw the line at participating in bad choices. KWIM?

It depends on who the person is and I will be totally honest. If it's family, then I will treat them the way they treat me. If it's a boss or someone of authority, than I am more likely to treat them the way I would want to be treated. I actually had to to think about this and it never occurred that I am that way. Thank you for this insightful post!:)

Treat others as I would like them to treat me until they prove that they are jerks who should be ignored or not be treated so nicely.

Always treat the way you want to be treated....I totally believe in Karma or law of attraction or whatever you want to call it.

If someone is mean to you, don't engage in poor behavior...walk away, move on and surround yourself with people who are positive.

Treat others the way I want to be treated.

I want people to have healthy boundaries with me, so I get to have boundaries have healthy boundaries with others. I want people to give me the benefit of the doubt but hold me accountable, so I get to give others the benefit of a doubt and hold them accountable.

I want people to treat me respectfully and make good choices for themselves, to be honest and kind, to have hope and to use discernment, and so I try to be respectful, honest, kind, hopeful, and discerning.

'Course, all that's a work in progress, ESPECIALLY when I'm feeling bummed, mad, or afraid - which usually happens in difficult moments with difficult people/relationships.

Another day another chance to practice, I suppose.

For sure the first choice.
Second choice, I don't even go there, including family members.
If you act like an a-hole, I don't have time for you.
End of conversation.

I definitely don't behave as a reaction to other's behavior. I am myself no matter how other people act. If someone is mean or rude to me, I won't associate with them anymore, but I don't retaliate or act that way to them.

I try to treat everyone nicely and if they are not nice I try not to deal with them unless I have to.

It is really situational.
And not being nice, does not mean, not being nice.
And being nice does not mean, being nice, per say.

And at the end, some people or many people, don't even self-reflect on their own actions or how they are. To others.
But they only whine about how others are to them.
Again, it is only about, them.

If I do not know the person, it's easier to live the golden rule. If there is bad blood, I try to avoid them, but if I do see them- I treat them like they treat me. On the job, I take the high ground as I am a newbie there and know that they have the boss' ear.