R.P.
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My cousin once told me that one morning our children wake up and come down to breakfast and they are not even human any more. Then 3 or 4 years later they wake up and come down to breakfast and they're back! Hang in there!
I have explained to my three children (2 girls-21 & 16 & 1 boy-19) that I understand they are trying to grow into young adults and are trying to assert themselves, but they still have to be repectful of me and their father. Seems the rebellion was directed at me more than dad. I believe as mothers we take things to heart more, this has been confirmed by my husband. They know deep down we're still going to love them no matter how hurtful they are to us. Reassure him that you love him too much to cave in to his rebellion, that you don't want to fight and that you are alwys there for him. Try not to argue back (you will not suceed all the time!) and force him to put his feelings into words, dig deep. One of my favorite sayings is, "Communication, it's a good thing!" My kids hated it, now they just laugh and roll their eyes at me, but we talk and we laugh and we even cry sometimes.
Be patient, it won't last forever and there is a wonderful relationship waiting on the other side for you both!
Blessing!
R. CD(DONA)
from heaven to earth