What Happened to My Question?

Okay, I'd REALLY like to know why this was reported. It was an honest question and I felt a lot of us could get a lot from it. It is an issue many of us face EVERY DAY! If you reported it, can you let me know why? Private message me and I promise to keep it confidential. Argh! Anyway, I had responded with I notice a difference in how people treat me as I've been many different weights in my lifetime. When I'm heavier I tend to get ignored. There seems to be a number weightwise where I am visible invisible and if I thought about it I could tell you what that is and it is still at a point where I'm overweight. DARN, said it so much better in my original response with some witt and I wonder if others found the same thing.

Take care all!

Wow.... I thought it was interesting. I liked reading why people felt the way that they did. Even the ones that dont like fat people ( which I am a member of the fat nation myself) I thought there was really honest answers and at least the ones I saw werent rude, just honest

Oh, I had the longest answer! i just sent it then found it gone:( I have to go tend to kiddies now, but I'll try to find time to re-write the answer later.

i dont know i just gave a very, very in depth response....and im a little aggravated that its all gone now.

*****im sorry your question was removed, i think it was valid and very touching...if you didnt get a chance to read what i said ill be happy to pm you. darn....wish i could have copied and pasted.........................check your email to see what mamapedia has to say!

aw i really wanted to see all the responses

I hate when that happens!! I've actually written detailed replies a couple of times & right in the middle of typing...zap...the half-way wriiten reply is gone. I don't see how your question could be seen as offensive..you explained the question was referring to you...and even asked for honest replies. Kinda wish when questions are pulled..a reason could be given...

Ah nuts. It was an interesting question.

Someone probably got offended. Damn it too, that was long insightful answer I wrote lmao. I read it and answered it, I didn't think it was offensive or dissing moms that may be overweight, but maybe it is a touchy subject for some people. Would asking about judging mom's weight in general be less offensive to some? I know I get judged for being skinny sometimes :)

I feel ya girl, mamapedia is addictive and facebook is like a second e-mail lol.

I didn't find anything wrong with your question. I thought you were being honest and didn't think you tried attacking anyone or were trying to be mean. This sight is for honest mothers to come on here and ask honest questions. I actually thought your question was a really good one! And I enjoyed reading the responses. You also stated your own opinion in your response so I don't know where the problem was? Some just need to learn that if you don't like the question then don't respond and move on. I only report someone if I feel they are attacking someone on this site or abusing it.

Hmm I was just reading your replies too

Maybe it was the wording of the title because there was a similar question on here not that long ago, and I don't believe it got pulled.

I was scared to read the responses because I struggle with my weight as well and am very sensitive about it. After some of the medical problems that I've had, I would never in a million years judge somebody based on what they look like. I think it's made me a better person. But the responses I saw were very kind. I love the honesty I see from a lot of the people on here. It's too bad they got deleted. Fortunately I got a chance to read most of them before it was pulled.

Hi queen-

I too was reading your answers and formulating a response...I have been 'all over' in terms of my weight...from an adult 'high' (not preggers) of over 200lbs...to an UNHEALTHY low (after twins) of 113...Now about 155, but want to drop 20 to be a healthier 'feeling' weight...

I definitely felt 'judged' when I was heaviest...and that was when I was young and single. I had had several bad relationships in a row...and for me it was 'keep men away' eating/weight. After a year or so...and at my 'top' weight, I began loosing thru better diet...and lifting...and aerobics.

I think my perception of being 'judged'...as well as time to heal from broken relationships...focus on me and career...were the motivators...

Let us know why it was pulled!

Best Luck!
michele/cat

I'm sorry it was pulled. I thought it was really interesting and people were being very honest. No one was rude or hurtful, just honest. I liked reading the answers!!

This place really bites. I answered painfully honest and was hoping I didn't get blasted for my answer.

What I didn't say about my own weight is that I never felt judged when I was younger and my skin was much nicer and my clothes a little nicer too. But the last 10 years or so I've become stubborn about not buying nice clothes until I lose weight. I've gone through so many physical problems that I am unsuccessful at exercise. I've wondered in recent years how people feel. But I don't know for certain that anyone has ever really judged me. I'm a size 20.

I was looking forward to responces too.

I just wrote a long reply too all for nothing!!

Oh my goodness! I didn't see your post. I really wish the report happy drama queens would get a life.

Go figure. O. of my responses (a vacuum cleaner recommendation!) was pulled for no apparent reason and when I asked, was told it was pulled "by accident"! Ummm.....OK.

I enjoyed reading the responses as well. But I think it was probably pulled because of the wording of the question (without the explanation you gave above) - it initially rubbed me the wrong way until I started reading the responses. The label "fat" is mostly considered derogatory in our society (and likely considered "flaming" or insulting by the powers that be on this board).

I don't know... perhaps because your question was offensive? Even if it was for yourself and not single out others (which you probably did), I don't find that very healthy. Find a way to love yourself for who you are. Who cares what other people think?

Offensive or not, flaggers are annoying. I find a good controversial post to be quite entertaining.

I've been off most of the day....a question got pulled again??!!?!??!?!?!

URGH!!!! i'm sorry!!! what did you need help with?

Cheryl - is that your disclaimer? We know YOU didn't do it! lol

I didn't respond to your question, but was really enjoying the responses and honesty. I don't get why it was pulled?!

What was the question?

ETA: Thanks for the added info - I can understand this thread better now! And, I wish your post hadn't been pulled. It's very frustrating when legitimate questions (and responses!) are yanked.

Just FYI-weight loss is almost all about diet. So don't worry as much about exercising-while it is great to do it will be your diet that makes or breaks you.

I got a couple of flowers today and when I went to retrieve them the question was pulled. I've also had questions pulled after I got great responses. So frustrating especially since I didn't break any rules. UGH! Anyway, I don't think your question is the one I answered since this post isn't ringing any bells. Good luck!!

I wish I would have been able to respond to your question! I didn't even see it. If you would like to, PM me and I will give you my opinion. Take care--

M