What Do You Think

Oh Gee...She was Malnutritioned and thinks that was a good thing. When if fact it probably played into the reason WHY she needed a c-section in the first place. The Dr. wasn't commenting because it was a good thing, he was shocked.

B.,
I understand what you mean. My mother-in-law is from the generation where the Doctors told you to watch your weight when you were pregnant. When I was pregnant she told her storys of only gaining 15 pounds when she was prenant so many times it was makeing me feel aweful. I think the combo of her being the mother of my husband and the fact that I felt huge made me feel worse about it. Most likely she didn't know it was making me feel bad. I'm sure you look beautiful!
Also, I was 120 lbs before I got preg and they saw fat durring my c-section.
Good luck with your pregnancy!
~ C.

I agree you just need to ignore her. It does sound like she either has her own insecurities or just likes to brag. Almost everyone gains weight when they are pregnant.

Sounds like my mother inlaw ignore her she has zero self esteem and makes everything about herself.

I know it is hard but I would ignore her, some people are so unhappy and the only thing they can control is there weight and to feel better about themselves they have to put other people down. This person may seem like she has everything but in private I am sure she knows she doesn't and thats why she has to put people down. Plus some people just have a phobia about weight. I also wouldn't be to hard on your husband he probably loves his mother but knows she has been this petty all his life and she isn't going to change, he could also know it would give her satisfaction to know she is getting that under your skin. Enjoy being pregnant and love yourself your husband and your kids. Later if you feel you need to lose weight then cut back on calories and as you do your daily routine put in exercise, I did side leg kicks as I did dishes, pushups on the wall, squats as I was walking and a few other things and I lost 3 pant sizes. Live your life for you so that when you get up in the morning you can look at yourself in the mirror. You can't let what someone else says or does reflect on you or think that it reflects on you. They have to be able to look in their own mirror.
I hope this helps have a great day!

she may be very insecure and trying to make you feel the same way (kinda to have company in it).
when she starts that kind of talk, remind her that your childeren are able to hear her and you dont want them growing up with issues with there bodys,so please dont talk of body size as if one size or shape is better than another. take the steps now to keep the kiddos body images in check when they are older.

I do think that older mothers have insecurities these days, and maybe it's because of the way things were in their generation.
Next time your mother-in-law says how great she looks, you should agree with her that she does look great for age and you hope you look as good as she does when you're that old! ;-) Best wishes with baby number 3 and don't let your mother-in-law ruin that glow and excitement of your pregnancy!
T.

Hi B.,

Just to let you know I have one of those mother-in-laws to. The best think to do is ignore her don't even react to what she says, that is why some people say such stupid stuff to get a reaction out of you. After awhile she will relize that you really don't care. Don't feel bad about gaining a little weight during your pregnancy. I gained 65 pounds with my 1st one today I'm a size 4. So don't worry you will get your figure back. Good Luck

My mother-in-law was even a little more blunt about our weight differences. She would compare me to other members of the family who were slimmer and constantly tell my daughter, who is very petite, that she was fat. It always hurt my feelings. If yours has any compassion, I suggest that you sit her down and tell her that you know she probably doesn't mean to hurt your feelings but when she makes these comments she does. If it would be hard for you to say this to her face put it in the form of a letter. Nonetheless the first step is to tell her. You can politely ask her to stop. If she doesn't then you need to be more blunt, especially if she makes her comments in front of others. It is not a competition between the two of you although some women seem to want to make it one. You weight is between you and your doctor (and maybe your husband) and not her. Don't let her do this to you and don't let her have the power over you to make you feel bad or insecure. Our self-esteem can be low, especially when we are pregnant, and you don't need any assistance making it go lower. I don't know why we women want to do that to one another. It is a horrible trait that some carry. You hold your head up high and know that giving life is one of the greatest things that you can do. Hooray for you! And keep in mind that the Bible says that God created you, he doesn't make any junk and who is she to put down something that God made- I doubt she is superior to Him!

I would say something to her. Just ask her to keep the comments to herself. And your husband should be the one to confront her on this. But, if he won't than i would tell him that you are going to stick up for yourself, and talk to her. I hope this is helpful, and it works,

Congradulations on the little one on the way!!!