My favorite go to side (because I can't screw it up!) is:
steam some fresh green beans until they are tender/crisp
slice up some red, yellow and orange peppers
thinly slice O. half of a red onion
Put them all in a bowl and add about 1/2 cup of "Ken's Northern Italian" salad dressing. Mix well. Refridgerate for about an hour.
Add some garlic bread and you are good to go. I like the idea of ham slices, too. Brownies for dessert.
I'm keeping positive thoughts for your friend. You are very sweet to do this for her family!