I have to come up with a very specific list of what I want from the other parent (the father) to do for my 2 little children, (1,3 year old)
I have been seperated from the father for the past 5 months, and we are in courts, he is now ordered finaly to pay child support, and he want to keep the kids half the time, so he does not pay full child support only half. He worships money so he is not doing it for the kids sake, and I am stay home very dedicated mother to my chiildren. He already has another woman involved in his life and around my kids where I don't know who she is, but they have been going out with my kids all together to outings.
I have made the court to assigne a gaurdian at litem for the kids. Therefore he wants me to write this very important list for him.
Please help me.
Thanks
Oh hon. He made these babies too.
He needs to take them on his weekend or whenever he gets to have them.
He needs to pay for all medical, insurance, bills etc.
He needs to feed them appropriately when he has them.
Have him set up an education fund for them that can be drawn out of his paycheck before he even sees it.
I would talk to your lawyer. I am sure they have helped many a mom in this situation.
I'm thinking that what they are after is the children's daily schedule. What time do they eat meals and snacks. What foods they will/will not or can/cannot (allergies?) eat. What their sleep/nap schedules are. What their bedtime routines consist of (story/bath/drink of water/prayers/special stuffed animal, etc).
The things he needs to know and do to help your children thrive and know what to expect in both environments. The more things are the same the better they will do.
Double check with the guardian ad-litem to confirm EXACTLY what they are asking you to list. The financial aspects (support, medical/dental insurance and expenses) will be covered by the judge. Maybe they want to know what sort of sleeping arrangements... a crib for the 1 yr old? A twin bed for the 3 year old? Clothing that they need to have at his house? But I'm betting it's the daily schedule... food, how much, what kind, etc.
Just think of all the things they will be doing and needing...anything you will do for them he has to do as well...
Pay 50% of medical/dental
Pick up and take to activities (sports,school,etc)
split vacation
Go to parent teacher conferences
You need to think about everything...even the stuff that is way down the road...
well it looks like you are just 2 steps ahead of me in the process! My husband wants them 41% of the time so that cs is significantly reduced, I hear ya! Maybe you can require a backround check on the girl that is around your kids alot since you dont know her.
