What Are You Most Favorite and Least Favorite Parts of the Holidays?

Updated on December 08, 2015
M.P. asks from Wells, VT
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My favorite: The simple joy of the children in my family...and pie.
My least favorite: Stress from overscheduling

Bonus question: What can you do to have more joy and less stress this year?

This year I am putting out less decorations, splitting time with family over a few days, and choosing to spend less on presents (without guilt!!)

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M.S.

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Great question!

My favorite part of the holidays: When they're over! :) For real, smelling the fresh Christmas tree and the wreaths. I love their aromas. Oh, and wrapping presents.

Least favorite: Holiday shopping crowds at the malls. I try to start my shopping early to avoid the crowds, but every year I forget something and get stuck in lines with 143 people ahead of me, all of them buying 100 items and standing in the line marked "10 items or less".

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D.B.

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We're Jewish, so we don't have the Christmas hoopla (although we have quite a few relatives who get gifts from us). Still, I enjoy Christmas music and cookies and lights - we've often gone out to look at some of the particularly crazy houses of lights, and enjoyed every minute of it. I hate the commercialism - the constant push to buy gifts, and even to give up Thanksgiving to go shopping (because, after 3 minutes of being grateful for what you have, you need a big day and then many weeks to go get more than you DON'T have!) I hate that the decorations come out in September - with the exception of craft and fabric stores because I know that crafters have to work way ahead. I may be one of the few people who really likes wrapping gifts too.

For Chanukah, we try very hard to keep the gift-giving small and meaningful, and we always incorporate charity/social justice into our routine. I just LOVE making special foods and having family/friends around. We have a bunch of menorahs and we always light about 5 of them in the front window - it's glorious to see the light increase with each successive night.

I think a lot of times we (women, mostly) beat ourselves up about how much "needs" to be done - from decor to cooking to purchasing. I think we need to lighten up and do what is meaningful to US, and involve the rest of the family in taking ownership of their own special traditions.

I also try to be aware of how many people don't celebrate Christmas - I know there's a lot of "war on Christmas" talk and I'm just sick of it. There are plenty of religions with winter holidays of light and plenty of people who are atheist and don't celebrate any of them - I think we can be a lot more open and accepting without being so afraid that our own religion is getting short shrift. Maybe that comes from being in the 1% Jewish minority but I think a lot of good people can (and do) take the time to be nicer and less possessive or whatever you want to call it.

I do try to shop all year, and I have a spot on my closet shelf where I keep things I've accumulated. I use post-it notes because I know I'll forget at least one intended recipient of a gift I thought was a great idea in July and now I can't remember!

I've cut back my gift-giving - relatives who never, ever write a thank you note or even acknowledge that gifts have been received are now off my list. That includes kids 10 and up. I have one relative (a mom of 2) who insists that she has no stamps because she pays her bills on line, or she has no thank you notes. I'm still waiting for acknowledgement of gifts from 5 years ago when she said "X is doing his thank you notes next weekend" and then I never hear anything. If there were a phone call or an email, that would be fine - but there isn't. And since we never get a card or gift, on holidays or birthdays or anything, I choose not to stress them out anymore by giving them anything! I would make the exception for babies of course or an elderly person who just can't write or remember to put a letter in the mail.

I also make a list of the people who have tough jobs and get taken for granted - the letter carrier, the newspaper delivery person, the garbage collector, the woman who's helping in the town recycling center, the Fed Ex and UPS drivers -- they all work in all kinds of weather and with a lot of lifting/hauling/driving. I set aside some money all year long to help out with either gift or gift cards (depending on how well I know them and what they like). I usually make a small cranberry bread or other baked item in a decorative pan to give to each of them. If I'm out for lunch, I give an extra tip to the server - if we each gave $1 or $2 more, we wouldn't notice it, but that below-minimum-wage waitress will!

I also have shifted away from certain stores - if they opened on Thanksgiving or otherwise required their employees to be at work at 2 AM on Black Friday, I no longer shop there. I'm shopping almost entirely with small businesses and artists and free-trade organizations - it might be a few dollars more, but that money goes into families' pockets and into the economy, not into some billionaire's offshore account or slave labor overseas. It's just a little bit, but if we all did it, you know....

I also am much more restrained about charities - I don't give to those who spend all the donations on multiple mailings during the year, who don't serve certain members of the population (like the Salvation Army's exclusion of gays), or even worthy charities who just aren't as high on my list as other causes. I investigate carefully and I brush off those with confusing names designed to make them look legitimate. I think the constant barrage of fundraising during the fall is very stressful, and I choose to not let it get to me and I don't feel guilty!

Otherwise, I try to be observant of who is stressed and struggling - I hold more doors for people, let more cars cut in front of me, move the abandoned shopping cart out of the handicapped space, try to look the hassled cashier in the eye, stuff like that. I figure every little bit of humanity helps me be less sucked into the crassness, and it might make somebody's day. It helps me slow down - and that's good for my head and my blood pressure.

Wishing all of you a calm and rewarding holiday season, whatever your traditions!

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S.T.

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favorite- decorating, music, food, and most of all having the boys home from time to time.
least favorite- cleaning for company, stressed checkbook.
being empty nesters has allowed us to cut back, and it's good. while i miss the whirl and rush to some degree, it's also nice to let the hours and hours of baking, and the personal letters with each christmas card, and the ridiculous shopping fall by the wayside. i'm not doing a sit-down dinner this year. i'm not handing out tins of cookies and fudge to all our friends and acquaintances. i'm signing the christmas cards and sealing the envelope. boom. i'll buy a few treats and some candy for dishes, but the ol' man and i are both watching our waistlines so no cookie baking, or homemade eggnog, or fudge. more sitting by the fire listening to music, more bundling up and going for walks, more driving around looking at decorations, more delicious solitary contemplation in the winter silence.
and yes! fewer presents! it's such a relief to cut back there. why didn't i do it years ago?
:D khairete
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L.M.

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Favorite - spending quality time with family, watching sappy holiday movies

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M.G.

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Favorites:
Experiences all December over focussing just on the 25th and gifts. On weekend we went to the woods and picked our own tree, had horse/wagon ride with friends, it was fun. I made a craft beer advent calendar for my husband to open all December. The gingerbread house - kids made that last night together, watching the big kids act little again.
Doing more experience gifts this year too - tickets for family to see hockey game. Tickets to movie theatre. Not so many things/toys.

Least Favorites:
Expectations from my husband's family. They climax this time of year. Takes away from the holiday spirit. My husband deals with it ok, but it still stresses him out. That spills over to us, so I thought the beer advent calendar could come in handy :)

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M.J.

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Favorite: Getting our kids to think of others by selecting toys for our daughter's school toy drive. They really put a lot of thought into what they select and learn to work within a budget.

Least: The guilt from the grandparents who don't get to spend holiday time with us exactly on the day(s) they wanted. We have three sets of grandparents scattered in various distances. The ones who require a day of flying to reach spill on the "we miss out" guilt and the closest ones aren't happy if they don't get the actual Christmas day. Keep in mind that none offer to come here; the burden is on us to travel.

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M.D.

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My favorite parts are the new traditions we've developed over the last few years - a decorating party with one friend and her kids, an early Christmas dinner with my two BFFs and their families, getting together with my siblings and their families and helping all the kids make gingerbread houses...

My least favorite part - I live near a major shopping center and the traffic is outrageous this time of year. Getting to and from work take so much longer than usual.

How can I have more joy? I somehow need to remind myself to focus on the positives in my life - which are many - and not get so bogged down in minor annoyances.

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S.T.

answers from Houston on

We don't have a wide circle of friends or family so stress is not an issue. The family we do have is on limited incomes which naturally keeps gift giving to a bare minimum with direct orders only to buy for the kids if at all.

My favorite part is hitting the toy store way back in August or September with my husband. We take off a couple of hours and screw around with all the toys carefully picking three gifts for each of our three kids. The next favorite part is date day at daycare which allows us to drop off the kids for a couple hours. We head home, pop open a bottle of champagne and get to gift wrapping. I love, love going back through the gifts we bought weeks ago and discussing how excited our kids will be.

My least favorite part is how the whole holiday thing starts five seconds after Halloween ends. It is hard to keep the Christmas magic alive for two freaking months. We rebel, though, and don't decorate until the weekend after Thanksgiving.

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S.G.

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My favourite part is all of the activities we do during the Christmas season.

My least favourite is putting away the decorations and trying to find places for all the gifts.

I've told my husband we will only exchange stockings this year, and my kids will get more gift certificates, gift cards, tickets etc than things.

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A.G.

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Favorite: Absolutely everything! Time spent with family, the music, the lights, the lovely decorations, the beautiful masses held at church, everyone seems nicer during the holidays - I could go on and on - oh, and I love, love, love Christmas trees!

Least favorite - When it's over. I am so sad when I have to move past the holidays. I stretch it out as long as possible.

More joy, less stress - I don't feel stress during the holidays. I love every minute!

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K.S.

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I've enjoyed reading these- thanks for posting!!

My favorite things- almost everything. I love Christmas. I love decorating the house, baking, and putting together gifts for family and friends. I love the time with my daughter while she's on break, and doing family things together. I really love the sappy Christmas movies!!

My least favorite- I have a weird sad feeling when Starbucks returns to the plain white cups, so silly. Sad that Christmas break is over for my daughter. But the hardest thing is that my husband gets sort of depressed this time of year. It used to be that he would be sad at the end of Christmas day, sad that the season and day was over. Then he started to be sad most of Christmas day in anticipation of it being over. Now it has bled out to most of December. It's really hard to know how to support him. I try to plan fun family outings but not overschedule us. And mostly I try to buy him activity gifts that won't take place until the following year- trying to give him something to look forward to. Long answer, sorry! That's the only part of Christmas that I don't really like, is trying to keep him out of the dumps when I am so joyful.

This year we decided to not attend so many parties that we really didn't want to go to. We used to go to everything that we were invited to (not like it's a ton, btw). Now we try to be low key and do smaller things. I need to follow your lead and spend less on presents!!

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J.G.

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It's always good when hubby gets time off work!

I love the tree, seeing tons of presents under it, and watching the kids eat a candy cane while the cinnamon buns cook.

least favorite: Xmas night when I know it's all over and I have to wait another year.

Stress: I don't feel much. I've cut out all the stuff that frustrates me.

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E.J.

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I think everyone has covered it! :-)

But I will add.... some of the holiday parodies.....They get played more this time of year and some of them are so old that it is like going down memory lane.
Three of my favorites are:

Alec Baldwin and his Schweddy Balls skit from SNL.......

Justin Timberlakes' Christmas in a box (I think) also SNL....

And this next one was first just played on the radio, now it's on You Tube. It's called the 12 Pains of Christmas. I love the guy who is 'rigging up the lights'

First thing of Christmas that's such a pain to me....
Finding a Christmas Tree...

The second thing at Christmas that's such a pain to me...
Rigging up the lights

The third thing at Christmas that's such a pain to me...
Hangovers

It goes on to name inlaws, parking spaces bills, etc. It is really funny when you need a laugh during this time of year.

My least favorite is that once these holidays have passed on come the winter blues :-(.

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