Hi, I am the mother of a wonderful, active early rising.. 10 month old boy.. he has been sleepin in my room since he was born.. he has been in his own crib and sleeps well by hiself, he goes to bed at 8 or 8 30 and goes down good. Lately Hes been waking up at 5 - 6 am and will play in his crib alone and quietly until he sees me move or roll over then he wants to get up.. I think maybe its time to move his crib to his own room, but i am afraid that when he wakes in his own room looks over and not see mommy in her bed will he freak out.. i dont want to make him feel alone or scared. I hope that i have not messed up by not moving him sooner.
HELP!
Well, I waited about a month and half after i posted this request to move him, but we finally did it. He is doing great in his own room.. I've had to go into his room and camp out on the floor once. But once isnt bad I dont think.. He does wake a little earlier and at first freaked out cuz mommy wasnt right next to him, but now he has been just playing.. His room is right next to mine, and i can hear him even when he is just playing in there.. He has done such a good job of transitioning.. I am so proud of him. He now wakes up and plays with his toys for a while till he gets bored. Actually a couple of times I had to go in and wake him up.. Seems he sleeps a little better on his own.. Anyway, wanted to say thanks for all the advise.. It was scary for me.. i think more than for him, but we are getting there day by day.. You women rock!
This is probably a good time,the sooner the better. Sounds like hes sleeping good. It will only take a few days for him to adjust. He'll be fine! Good Luck!
It's ok to move him now...if he sounds scared in the morning, you can go to him. does he have a familiar toy or stuffed animal or blanket that will go with him? Don't be upset if there is an adjustment period of a couple of days, my guess is, he'll soon get used to it. Also, spend good "together time" during waking hours.
A well rested mom is a good mom. A well rested baby is a happy baby.
My first born lasted one week in our room when she was a newborn. Our second lasted about six months in our room before I moved her to a room with her sister. I would move your child. It'll be healthy and I'd put a nightlight or two on. It'll be hard for a week or so but you both will get through it. Our kids sleep in our room on Friday and Saturday and sometimes once in a while during a work week.
He was ready for his own room months ago when he slept through the night on his own. He won't freak out by not seeing you. If you don't move him now it will be a habit that will be incredibly hard to break.
Generally speaking any habits a baby does like pacifier, blankie, bottle, sleeping w/mom-dad, being rocked to sleep etc..... are alot easier to break the habit before age1! Once they go past their first birthdays every month you continue the habit it's that much harder to break.
If you have the room to move him go ahead and do it. It sounds like you have a lttle boy. If he freaks out a little that you are not in the same room with him all you have to do is go to his room and asuure him it's ok that you are still there when he needs you. He will be ok.
ditto to what Shellie said. He needs to be in his own room now as it's harder to break habits the older they get. Mine only slept in my room for the first couple months while in a bassinet and nursing a couple times during the night. I didn't sleep as well with them in the room. My third had to share a large room with us most of her first year as we built our house. It was miserable on both of us as the rental home had a squeaky bed so any time I turned she'd wake, thus I'd wake, etc. Plus it really limits intimacy in a relationship if you're married. Not good for dad. ;)
Your not a freak I have my 7 month old still in our bed and he's number 5. I think from experience if he likes his crib go ahead and make the move now!
Good Luck
A.
Well, you could move him into his own room any time now. And it'll take him a while to get used to waking up in his own room. But as soon as he figures out that when he cries, you'll come in and get him, he'll be okay.
I never had my kids in my room, they are good sleepers and so am I. Why do you think you need him in your room?
Some kids are early risers and will wake you no matter where they are. Until the age of 3, children cannot cognitively distinguish where a parent has gone when they leave the room, so you are right, he will be upset.
The most important thing here is that putting him in another room will not keep him from waking at 5-6 am, so you will get up either way. I would suggest that you can easily put him in another room when he can enjoy his own bed (not crib) and has permission to come in and get you if he feels scared.
I commend you for keeping him in your room at night M.. Many parents don't believe in comforting their children by being close by. This stage will end for him when he is more active and requires more sleep.
My first slept with me until he was 9 months old and my second until 6 months. You're at least a step ahead because your 10 month old is already in a crib. Transitioning to his own room shouldn't be too difficult. If he has a really hard time you could try setting up camp in his room until he's used to it and then go back to your own room. I slept on an air mattress in the room with my second for 3 nights, but we were also going from co-sleeping to crib so it might not take as long for you.
M.,
Learning to be independent is a part of growing up. Yes, he might freak out a little at first, but he will get the hang of it. Remember, your job is to raise a self-sufficient, independent, happy adult who can handle whatever life throws at him and part of that is helping him learn that it is okay to be alone sometimes.
Good luck,
S.
If he's such a contented one you should be able to move him with relatively little trouble. It might take a few mornings to get used to not seeing you there, so be prepared to get up when he starts to fuss. Out little guy stayed in our room until past one year, then moved straight to a bed with his big brother, so you haven't missed your chance. If you need the extra sleep and his presence isn't causing a problem, I'd just wait a bit. He's in his own bed, and happy every morning. Why mess with success?
SAHM of seven
No two kids are the same and we've used every sleeping arrangement in the book!
You have not "messed up" and their is no right way to sleep as a family. Whatever works for you is right for you. My six-year-old daughter and I share a room because we both like it that way. The fact that your son goes to sleep by himself and sleeps through the night is great. The early rising could be a phase, or you could think about reducing his nap time(s). Is he still taking two naps? Maybe its time for one. Or is the sun coming in the room in the morning? My daughter is waking up earlier now that it gets lighter earlier. Or, you could start going to bed earlier at night and enjoy the early mornings with your son.
I did not get a chance to read all the responces first so I am sorry if I repeat something. Don't worry, mom. If your ready to move him, he'll be fine. It will of course take a couple days or maybe a couple weeks to adjust to the change, but he'll get used to being in his own room in no time. Kids are pretty quick a bouncing back no matter what the circumstance is. I was worried about moving froma crib to a toddler bed. I thought the kids would start wandering around at night, or fall out of bed easily, or you name it I worried about it. But when it came time to do it, it was not that big a deal. I think we as women as natural worriers:) Go ahead move him, and he may surprise you at how well he adjusts. Good luck!
He's ready when your ready. He may be alittle scared when he wakes up, but more than likely he will just cry for you to come get him. You'll be up for the rest of the day, so be prepared for the early mornings.
Ours wake up around 6 every morning, including weekends. Man I can't wait 'til they can pour their own cereal :P
Ours were around the 2 year mark before we moved them to the kids room. Every kid is different and every situation is different. So don't let anybody make you feel like your doing something wrong. But it will be easier to shift him into a new room now then when they are 3. Be prepared to be a little sad to see your little man make a big step to being a big boy. I know I was lonely for the first few nights, even with my husband next to me. It's just not the same.
I say the sooner the better because I have a friend who has done that with her son. He is now 3 and sleeping with them every night. They "try" every night to get him to sleep in his bed but always ends up in there bed... I am sure it is a very hard thing to do but remember that you are the parent and be consistent. Good luck!!!
Everyone of my kids were moved into there own room by the time they were sleeping threw the night which was around 2 months. My youngest is 8 months and every once in a while I will hear her wake up around 5am or so and play, but then falls back to sleep. You will be fine to move your son into his own room. That way when he does wake up, he will not see you and want to wake you up. Don't be surprised if the first few days, he wakes up like usual and starts to cry because he will be excepting to see you right away and he wont. The first time go in there and comfort him with OUT picking him up, and then everytime after that, don't get up right away wait a little bit and see if he will calm down himself. You can tell if there is something wrong by the way that he crys.. Good luck
