What About Me ? (Ranting and Raving from a Crazy Pregnant Chick)

C.,
May God bless you and the baby boys you carry. And Hey! Don't be so hard on yourself. And it is okay to rant, blame it on hormones. Of course you are uncomfortable and tired of being pregnant. Take care of yourself - a little pampering never hurts anyone - nap lots, have your favorite dirnk at least once a day(more if it's good for you), set aside some quiet time to just read, meditate or share with you husband.
Remember, you are the rpegnant one, you're allowed to feel sorry for yourself. You can do this.
Good luck and think of what a wonderful christmas present you will get when those babies arrive.

First off ((((HUGS))))...it definatley sounds like you should talk to your doctor about everything you are feeling. Depresseion is a horrible black hole and with pregnancy hormones on top it can be devistating. You are delaing with so much, I can not even imagine what you are feeling and the stress you are under. Just remeber that you can always vent to us here, that is part of the wonderful thing about this group. I am glad you chose to reach out to us. Please call your doctor today and see them so they can help you in many ways we are all unable to. best of luck hoon and please keep us posted. My thought s will be with you. (((HUGS)))

C. I will not say I totally know what you are going through because I do not.
I just had my cousin give birth to identical twin girls and she went to term but did not have a lot of the issues you are going through.
I praise you ladies that God gives the blessing of multiples to. You are definitely able to handle that better than me. (multiple miscarriages here.)
I do understand the stress from unemployment and trying to figure out where the money is going to come from. Finding a job right now is not easy and you definitely are not in the shape to get a job.
I wish I knew something that could help with the depression/feelings of being overwhelmed and frustration.

All I can do is offer an ear and be here if you need to talk. Please do contact me if you need to talk.

I know we all wish to have someone to vent to that is not going to be judgmental or that is going through this with that may take it as a guilt trip or something.

I haven't been through a situation like yours but I can understand feeling helpless and depressed despite being pregnant. I think people believe that being pregnant has to be the most joyful time of a woman's life but it's not that way for everyone. It concerns me a lot that you said there has already been a suicide attempt during this pregnancy. Have you told your OB how you're feeling?? It's your OB's job to ensure that you AND your babies are safe and healthy throughout the pregnancy so you really need to voice to him/her the way you're feeling so they can help you before you spiral down any further.

I know it must be frustrating to hear people telling you to "hang in there" because while that is said with good intentions, it doesn't really help anything. It sounds like you're trying very hard to keep things together for yourself and your family despite the financial difficulties you're having. You should be proud of yourself for that. I'm not trying to make you feel badly, but I think that you may be adding more stress to the situation by coming up with ideas like trying to get induced before the end of the year for the tax credits. You need to give yourself a break. You need and deserve it!

Try to focus on each day as it comes rather than envisioning the rest of the week or month. That would be overwhelming for anybody pregnant or not. I would also encourage you to open up to your husband so that you can reconnect with him. He may or may not understand how you feel, but he needs to know what's going on with you because as your partner, he should be there to support and reassure you when you need it most.

For stress relief, something that could help is deep breathing exercises. It might sound stupid if you've never tried it, but yoga type breathing exercises can be very relaxing for the mind and body. I was skeptical until I tried it but it really helped to ease tension in my shoulders, lower back, and my mind felt less filled with worry over daily stresses.

It's not an ideal time for you to be working but the holiday season is a great time for your husband to pick up a job. A career position may not be available but he could definitely pick up some work in the meantime as a cashier or salesperson. A lot of stores open extra positions to accommodate seasonal shopping increases. Any income is better than nothing.

C., my heart goes out to you. Hang in there!

C.,

I just read your post and wanted to encourage you too. Pregnancy is no cake walk for most of us. I did NOT enjoy it - especially the second time - and I wasn't even expecting twins.

Just take a deep breath and keep doing the wise things you're doing to get through it. Little breaks. Enjoy the small things each day - your older son and the growth of those crazy two babies kicking you constantly. It's a great sign that they're strong and healthy.

Even though things seem grim, you have everything you need. Your husband seems to have good intentions. You have family who will doubtless help you if you need it. You have two arms to hold those babies, your love, your son. The stuff is just stuff.

You're going to make it! Hang in there. :)

Hi C.,

First of all, congrats on the twins and God Bless you for carrying those little angels.

Secondly, don't be so hard on yourself. Pregnancy is a wonderful event but along with the joy of being pregnant comes hormonal changes, emotional and mental ups and downs, not to mention the fact that you can no longer see your feet and there are parts of your body that do things that no one thought possible.

I agree with the others that talking to a therapist, counselor or even a priest or pastor could help. Sometimes you just need someone to vent to that doesn't offer advice or criticize - oftentimes once you get it off your chest you feel better.

Lastly, if you are struggling financially, contact your local church for assistance or contact St. Vincent De Paul - they help you financially with bills when you can't make ends meet. One other thing, my sister told me about a wonderful website called treasurebox.org - you get tons of food for $30.00. This is not a coop, anyone can do it, there are no financial requirements. You get frozen meats, vegetables, dessert. We have done it and the food is wonderful and you can't do better anywhere else.

Hang in there and know you are in my prayers. Put your arms around yourself and that is a hug from me saying "it's going to be alright".

Goodnight.

L.

C.,
Please make an appointment with your ob right away. I had depression during my pregnancy and they put me on anti-depressants. It made a huge difference!! Your hormones are raging due to the multiples and the depression is much stronger than it would be with a single pregnancy. Your doctor will help you! Make sure you tell the doctor exactly how you are feeling.

C., I am so sorry that you are feeling so rotten. Does your Dr. know how bad you feel? I wonder if he couldn't prescribe something (or give you free samples) that would help you relax and rest peacefully. My daughter-in-law had twins and it was also very hard on her. It was good for you to vent here, and it would be good to vent to friends/ family on the phone, too. I'm sure that you are a very good person with a lot of stress right now. You can do this! Count your blessings and think of good things - imagine how wonderful it will be to hold the boys and see them smile at you. My grandsons (twins) are the sweetest boys. One of them is always telling me that I'm beautiful - and believe me, it is not because of the way I look! :-) They draw me pictures and bring drinks and food to their parents/ sister if they don't feel well. They sing so cute and sit on your lap and hug you. It's just a wonderful feeling to be loved by them. And you have that coming!