J.C.
having been through something like this - I won't go into details - My belief is that you leave your property to your children to be divided evenly. Many siblings take something special - a token from your collectibles - then have a huge estate sale with the rest so that the funds can be divided fairly. This sounds very harsh to the person who collected all of those treasures, but like someone else said, what you love and collect is not what your children will. But know this - your children, no matter how ungrateful they are, will never get over being left out of a will. It is solid proof for the rest of their lives that they were not as good as the others in your eyes. Either give it all to charity, or split it evenly amongst your children. There is no reason to pass judgement after you are gone. That is my opinion.