OK ladies here is my deliema. I have 2 boys who are 10 weeks (Dane)and 16 mos.(Jarrett). Prior to Danes birth Jarrett had almost completely given up the pacifier except for naps and car rides and was speaking often. Since Dane was born Jarrett constantly wants the pacifier at home (but not at daycare) and has almost quit speaking. He will grunt, point, whine, and do sign language. I would like to ween Jarrett from the pacifier to encourage speaking. Is it too soon? Should I let him keep it for security and comfort since there have been so many other changes with the addition of his brother?
hey J.,
My 2yr old just got where she dont have to hold onto to here pacidifer and she is now taslking but, she is alo delayed.... In time your son will put his down.For the longest time Annabelle just held on to it I think for security...
If you want to nip the pacifer out take him to the denist and some will ask for his pacifer and in exchange will give him a toothbrush. (no not an even exchanged but it's an idea)
Cold turkey worked for both of my children. They were both about 18 months. My last baby never took to a pacifer thank goodness. My girls are close in age and we had your problem with the bottle b/c the oldest saw the baby with a bottle she wanted one too. It took a long time to get rid of all the bottles.
If possible I would suggest you spend some one on one time with your older son (if only for thirty minutes). It does sound as he is jealous of his younger brother's attention. No I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong just that maybe your son needs a little time with his mommy.
Hope this helps,
L.
Snip just a ittsy bittsy bit of the tip off every day and he will soon see it's not doing him any good to suck on the left over nub! Sounds crazy but it works.
Hi J.,
My son stuck to his pacifier until he was about 2 years. You need to see what is best for him- and if you feel he "needs" it- then let him hold onto it for a little while longer. With the verbalizing issue- the best solution for that is to not respond when he grunts or mubles through the binky.. and flat out tell him "I dont understand what you want when the pacifier is in your mouth". He'll learn to take it out to communicate.
With my son, we involved him in getting rid of it. I had a talk with him about how he was a big boy and no longer a baby.. and then I got the trash can out and told him to throw it out. Then we put it in the big trash can and watched the garbage truck take it away. (I had reserve ones on hand in case it didn't work- but luckily because he was involved in the getting rid process, he didnt ever ask for it.) The only thing he'd do is whenever he'd see a garbage truck, he'd say "my pacifier is there".
Good luck! Do what you feel right- you know your son better than anyone and what he needs right now.
Adla
No, it is not too soon. Too often nowadays parents drag the passy thing waaaayyyyy out. Their need for additional sucking is gone by 6 months? or somewhere around there. By a year, it is non-existant. It is now a habit. He should have you and dad for security and comfort, not an inanimate object. Just lose it (that's what we did with my youngest). We just gathered them all up one evening and put them away. We didn't make mention of it to her at all. She was 11 months, and never asked for it.
