Is she still on a bottle? Our pediatrician told us that once the bottle is gone, losing the pacifier should be a lot easier. Maybe you can work on fully transitioning to a spout cup or straw cup first. At 21 months old you can explain that the baba stays in her crib and only in her crib. She doesn't come out of the crib until she leaves the baba there. THEN YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT with this new rule. Don't pull it out of her mouth; tell her she needs to leave it in the crib so she feel more in control. If she wants to come out of the crib, then she has to give it up. After a few times of wanting out of the crib, she will learn this new rule. Then only use it in the car if you are desperate to get her to nap, but usually sleeping in a car seat is so much easier anyway so you might be able to get away without it in the car too (don't have too many exceptions to your rule). I heard if you use a thin needle to poke a hole in the paci, it doesn't "work" the way a kid wants it to work, so perhaps the child will lose interest...? That way you can still offer it, but quickly she will not want it, but I never tried this so don't have 1st-hand experience. We just got our 15-month old off his paci, and I stuck to the "only in the crib" method. For days he would find lost paci's under furniture, in toy bins, etc., and as as soon as I caught him with it, I would ask him to spit it out... he would scream but within a minute would spit it out and hand it to me--he knew the rule. He is a little more clingy with a blankie now which he only sort-of liked before, but I'd much prefer a blankie than a binkie. Maybe you can take her to a store to pick out a new lovey and make a big deal out of that one during this process. Stay strong and keep moving in the direction of elimination sooner rather than later UNLESS you notice she is turning into a thumb-sucker. A paci is better than a thumb. Good luck!