J.R.
I have a very good friend that watched a boy starting when he was 4 months old. She has 2 children of her own. She had some of the same issues (not behavior, but I'll get to that in a second). Mom was supposed to pick up the child at around 3, but since it was a daily rate, mom started coming later & later (while sometimes shopping), & once dropped her sick child off so she could go home & sleep. I know how that can make you feel frustrated. I think some of the prior posts are kind of mean. I'd call around to different daycares & see what some of their "rules" are (price, meals, etc.). I think if you're going to have a daily or weekly rate, set the hours (ie: 8-5) & a late/early fee. The $5 per minute is NOT unreasonable. You could mention an "early pick-up rate reduction" if you'd like, but I doubt they'll care. I'd also set a "year" of some sort, so you can renegotiate price & rules & such. They should definitely be providing diapers & wipes. And you should also consider food. Do you provide food or do they? As for the behavior issue. It is YOUR rules while in YOUR home. The parents need to know how their child is behaving, so they can "talk" to the child & enforce your rules. This is a tough age for all children with discipline & it sounds as though the child is testing you (in both ways). If you're going to continue the arrangement, "Love & Logic" (1st post); "1-2-3 Magic" & "How to Behave So Your Preschooler Will Too" are great books for discipline issues. And again parents need to be on board with it! Don't feel guilty about how you feel or talking to them. If they don't like what you have to say, then they'll find someone else & I'm guessing you won't mind that either. Good Luck Girl & let us know how it goes!