Want Another Baby, Need Support or Advice

First try dropping hints. If that doesn't work, just flat out bring up the subject. Don't nag about it, but make it perfectly clear where you stand. Hopefully he will see how much it means to you. My husband had two children from a previous marriage and always said that he did not want anymore. I just dropped lots of hints and stared longingly into the baby section at wal-mart. He got the picture. I am currently pregnant (planned) with my first baby. He said no more after this and said he would get a vasectomy. But I really wanted a girl and we just found out it is a boy. Now he says maybe he'll try just one more time in a few years if the family still runs smoothly with what we have.

That sounds like a very difficult position to be in. Have you spoken to your husband about it and told him how important this is to you and how much you really want to have another baby with him? Has he told you why he is so adamant about not having another baby? Maybe if he hears how much you really do want another baby and how much it would mean to you he would realize that having another baby would just be more love to spread around.

Personally I feel your getting that my son will soon be in school then what will I do problem! I am sure you wouldn't mind having another baby but a lot of women start feeling more pressure about having another one when their first is getting near school age more then they had been. Also you have to remember there is no way you are guaranteed a baby girl. I wanted one so badly but I had 2 boys!! I am a grandma now never had a daughter but I do have a granddaughter now. Just set back & turn it over to the Lord because he truly is the only one that has a say so on whether you are to be blessed with another baby. I sure wouldn't argue with my husband over something that may never happen. Also why upset yourself with something like an arguement think now before you act!

As a child me and my little brother were seven years apart and we did not get along until we were adults. Our childhood we fought everyday of our lives until i moved out. I have five children of my own from 16 years to 6 years old. I wouldn't advise to wait to long but I am not saying otherwise be patient if it is meant to be it will happen and your husband will love the next one just as much as he loves your son. Patience is a virtue.

I think it's important for you to at least listen to his reasons for not wanting another baby. Maybe he has some very logical reasons like money being stretched too thin or feeling like he will have no free time...not that these reasons can't be argued but to your husband they are very real and important. I would not advocate you tricking him (no stopping your birth control without his knowledge or anything - divorces have occurred over more trivial things!) But maybe you should sit him down and explain to him why you really want a new baby. Maybe he just doesn't see how important it is to you.
On the other side of the fence there is no reason that waiting for than 4 years between children is a bad thing...my sister and I are close in age and hardly ever speak now, while my baby brother is 12 years younger than me and we are best friends and trust each other with ANYTHING. Not to mention, he's the GREATEST uncle in the world to my little girl and it makes me a little teary when I see how he is so good and patient with her and how much it reminds me of how I was with him when he was little. All I'm saying is if your husband wants to wait a little while to have another one don't see it as the end of the world; your son will probably be even more protective and affectionate towards a new baby as he ages. Good luck with whatever you decide to do; put the decision in God's hands if you really can't decide what to do on your own. All the best!

What reason does your husband give for not wanting another baby? Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel about the situation. My husband always says we're not having anymore, but I can tell when I look at him that he doesn't mean it. We would be trying right now if we could afford it. My son turned two in May and the initial plan was to start trying then. We're having to put it off until next year because we just bought a new house and I am in school.
As far as the age between them, my middle sister and I are almost 6 years apart and we couldn't be any closer than we are now. We have a GREAT relationship. True growing up I may have been a little pain, but we were always doing things together. We have much more in common and our personalities are more alike than my oldest sister and we are 8 years apart. Just talk to your husband about the pros and cons of another baby and pray that he will understand. I will b praying for you.

Hi, J.! It's understandable for you to want another baby, but in my experience, anyone who has a baby without the consent of both adults is headed for trouble. It creates turbulence in a marriage that isn't necessary. Your husband's views should be respected as much as your own. In this case you're at a standstill for now. The next best thing is to babysit other people's babies to help soothe your craving. Hopefully your husband will come around. Having two kids far apart is not necessarily a bad thing. My son and daughter are 8 years apart. He was planned, she was an oops! But she adores him and he's been an excellent big brother. So, the age gap doesn't mean they can't still find a way to be close to each other.

Just talk to him and maybe you can reason with him. If not maybe you can always be hopeful that it will just happen. I got pregnant with my twins and I wasn't planning. We were married for exactly one year when I found out. So, maybe it will just happen for you like it did with your first one. My first born was 6 going on 7 when the twins were born. I still long to have another child even after two ectopic pregnancies after the twins. I long for another so it is not just you. I think most mom's are like that when the baby gets older. I will keep you in our prayers and your family too.