Violent 2-Yr-old

Well i kind of agree with the other lady. He is looking for attantion becuase he lost what he had when the new baby came. He's wanting it back. BUT i don't agree with if you are taking care of the baby and he begs for attention you drop everything and give it to him. What i suggest is you include him in the days events with the baby. Ask him to get the diaper or powder or wipes. Take the diaper to the pail. Things like that. Give him time during the day. Set with him each evening and talk to read books. If he his getting enough he will stop pestering the baby. The reason he's not trying to hurt the baby but it trying to make him cry is becuase it's fun to see what he does can do that... So what i would do when that sort of thing happens i would take him aside and make him sit down on time out. If he throws himself round or won't stay down than bring his carseat in and put him in it, or a high chair. But you need to make it clear that doing what he's doing is not going to give him any attention. ( since children his age don't look for good attention anykind will do) So the least amount of reaction the better.
as Maryam said sometimes it just redirecting him when he's acting up it's always good to try simple things first if you can. Good luck

Try giving him a special time where it is just you and him. Get a sitter or your husband to watch the baby while you take your son out for ice cream or an hour at the park. Just you and him and have your husband do the same. It works wonders.

Hi J., your 2 year old is looking for mommy's attention and a negative attention is still attention. So every time he acts out, you have to stop caring for his brother to give him his attention. When I had my second son, my first was 15 mos. but it still worked, we gave him a baby doll to care for so when I was nursing, he was nursing his baby alongside me. He was there to help me bathe, change and later on, feed his brother. He helped to pat his back for nap time and then I had a little one on one time with him.
It's hard to juggle but he may be trying to keep the time he had with you before his brother arrived. You'll be creative in involving him with you in caring for his brother and maybe he won't act out so often. Also remember, he Is in the "terrible twos" and this for some reason is a tough year for a toddler. They'll grow up to be best buds if only you can get through this phase. (At the end of the day, count your blessings and smile because tomorrow you get to do it all over again. LOL. Treasure these moments for what they are because I guarantee they will be grown and gone in the wink of an eye).

I've recently started with my two year old telling him kisses not hits. He's become so much more loving. I have to constantly remind him, but the change is amazing. He is giving tons of hugs and kisses. It was attention he was seeking. He just needed to be guided in a positive way to get it.

I actually just read this at the children's museum today! They recommended that you say "our baby" or we're on the "same team" with your older child. it helps them feel ownership and pride and a part of the "team".

J.
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