I know everyone is different but i've noticed that since i have had my kids i am only interested in being intimate the first week after my period, the second week i can fake it but could care less, by the third week and the week of my period, i do'nt want to be touched at all. So I'm wondering is this normal, do i need to see a dr about some sort of hormone issue????, Marital counseling???, I'm fine with this rhythm but hubby obviously isn't all too happy. any advice??? mostly on how to keep hubby happy if i don't want to be with in ten feet of him.
I'm ok with a private message if this is too personal to post for everyone. I just can't even imagine discussing this with someone face to face, But i could really use some reassurance or advice. Oh and i'm mid thirty's healthy, not too over stressed, or too busy to make it happen, just after that week i've had enough thank you very much. --no no birthcontrol.
I got the same problem. but wether or not its hormonal I have wondered myself. I am starting to belive it is. due to a talk with my aunt this weekend. I also just explain it my body isn't cooperating right now. that means they know its not them. i'm horney so to speak but body is saying nooooo.
Well, I'm not sure that I'll be helping too much :) I have had the same experiences...I think it has a lot to do with the age of you children, also. Running around after little ones all day doesn't lend itself to too much of feeling sexy.
I have been stuck at this for a while, now. Of course, my hubby noticed, too. After about two years of this HE really started helping...pick up around the house, will rub my back or just softly touching me (not even sexually, just touching) I still get the UGH! attitude sometimes...but I try to keep his needs in the front of my mind, too. Hope you find something that helps...these moms are great and I'm sure you'll get more responses than just me! I can't wait to read them...great subject. I know it's hard to talk about.
Its called the hormones of ovulation and keeps the species perpetuated! LOL! This is such a normal process. After 11 years of marriage my husbnad can tell what my moods are going to be each week. They tend to follow a 4 week cycle. PMS=Moody, Tired/Can't be bothered = period, Energetic/In the mood = ovulation and tired= I'm done ovulating.
I've said this before but your sexual relationship can be improved by improving your emotional relationship. Try doing lots of little non-sexual things to serve each other daily. Really put each other first and communicate openly and respectfully about the things you like and don't like.
Finally, it is ok to sacrifice and give intimacy to your husbnad when you don't feel like it. However, he does need to always treat you like you are more than just a body for this to work and sacrifice back in other aspects of the relationship. Otherwise you will feel used.
Normal. Hormones. I've been like this for years now. First week I'm a horn dog. Second week take it or leave it. Third week better not even try. Can't say I'm sure about the advice part. But learning to meet somewhere in the middle is a good starting point. I would say that your "worst" week would be a good hands off week if he would be willing to back off and give you some time off. Helps your attitude if he does :)
C.
What you are experiencing is actually biological. The week after your period is when you are getting ready to ovulate. So your baby sends out hormones that say get ready and make a baby!
Hi, Veronica:
You need a vacation to reflect on your life, marriage, and how you want to spend the rest of your life. You are at a turning point in your life right now, sex is the symptom.
You are not happy and are projecting it onto your husband. First of all, what do you need for yourself?
How do you express your needs?
Are you in touch with your feelings and ask for what you need by using I statements?
Here is a formula:
I feel.................................. (State how you feel)
When I..............................(Identify the problem)
Because...........................(Say why you feel this way)
And I need.........................(Propose how to resolve it)
Get you a feelings sheet and start practicing saying how you feel about everything.
Good luck. D.
I could care less on sex I don't want it don't need it i'm 30 with 3 kid's I'm the worry wart however i'm trying to change that also a bit on the keep my house clean and tidy.I don't initate sex or the comfy cozy cuddling I feel like i'm too busy to stop and when I go to bed that is my time.I have been like this before kids and then after 3 it went further down hill however I have talked to my drs about this and for the most part it comes down to depression
Are you on birth control ???
One week out of four isn't too bad, actually. Just have a lot of sex that week and fake it the next two weeks, then don't do it week four.
That is pretty much my exact cycle too. I still have sex whenever, but only actually want it that first week. That is when I ovulate. I first noticed this cycle after my first pregnancy also. Up to that point it hadn't been an issue. And I had always been on a hormonal form of birth control until then, so I think that was part of it. After the pregnancy, my birth control was not a hormone b.c. and it was very obvious. I am a little disappointed that my body has decided sex is only worth doing while I am ovulating/getting ready to ovulate. Doesn't seem fair :( You could certainly speak to your ob/gyn and see if they can do anything for you, I know there are options available. And they hear much worse things than this every day.
