Very Personal - Keller,TX

I think he should also see a Dr. You did mention that it has gotten worse so whatever is causing the problem it does not seem that it will resolve on its on. Has he been under stress? It could be a combination of stress and a medical situation. I heard that when men are having this problem they stress out over if it's going to happen again and this only makes the problem worse.
As a women I also go through this form of stress sometimes and I could just not be in the mood at all for a few weeks at a time. i believe for me its stress. Trying to be the perfect employee, mother, wife, and house keeper gets me down sometimes and I have those times where I just want to be left alone and by myself.
Hope that you both get through this.

Is he on any medications that have this type of a side effect? That's the only other thing I can think of. I agree with everyone, he needs to see a doctor. If he doesn't want to see his regular one, maybe he could go to a urologist. Just a thought.

One piece of advise for you. It's not you, the problem is with him, so please don't add to his anxiety and keep asking him if he's still attracted to you. :) This is about him, not you. Our human bodies can break down in so many ways, you know? Physically and mentally. So he really needs to get this checked out so things can go back to normal. Be patient and supportive and just keep encouraging him to seek medical help.

Good luck!

H.-

I used to sell Cialis, and these are hallmark signs of men with Erectile Dysfunction. Unfortunately, there's really no good way to diagnose ED because a significant number of cases are "non-organic" meaning they're psychological.

I know he doesn't want to speak with his doctor, but honestly, it's just like going to the OB/GYN - it's not something you look forward to, but they see it all day long. Viagra, Levitra and Cialis would not be $Billion dollar medications if there wasn't a need and if men weren't talking about it with their physicians.

My recommendation if the physician agrees is to try one of those medications and see if they correct the problem. If they do, it's likely a medical issue not a psychological issue. Unfortunately, sex is so tied to how men view themselves that when they're not performing at the level they expect, it creates more stress and more performance issues.

Good luck. It's easy to say talk to your doctor - in this case, I really think it's the best option.

Definately should see a dr-a urologist probably. It could be he has a low testoterone level. Kind of like a male menopause. Sounds sill, but my husband was 37 and his hormone level was that of an 80 year old man. Little bit of hormone every day and he's good to "go" :-) Is he sleeping and still saying he's tired, not losing weight and/or gaining and not being able to lose? Just signs that we saw thinking it was depression. Our family dr caught it on a whim thinking he was too young for it, but tested him :-) Dr. Scott Davidson in Grapvine is great-good luck

My husband has the complete opposite, he ejaculates to soon. I guess he's what you call a minute man. He is embarrassed about it too. We worked on it up until he left for Afghanistan last May and we got him to last for at least 35 minutes on the first go round. But since he returned it's back to less then 5 minutes. Maybe your husband ED (erectile dysfunction) but only a doctor can diagnose that. He doesn't need to be embarrassed around the doctor, they have special doctors for that kind of thing. And just because he's 31 doesn't mean he is exempt from it. My husband and I are 22 and he is the first guy I have ever been with who has ejaculated before 30 minutes so you know I was surprised the first time we had sex. Try and coax him to go see a specialist about it. They can help. Good luck to you both. :)

My husband went through this for a while. We never figured out why. It did break my heart though becuase it was so disappointing for him. I felt bad for him and assured him that I wasn't mad or did feel less attracted to him.

He is fine now, but the problem lasted about a year.

Does he smoke? This can lead to problems. Drinking alcohol and coffee can too.

He should see a Dr, this could be a medical issue. There could be something dangerous going on. I do understand the pride involved too. I'm sure this is very embarrassing.

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I will be straight up with my response, and I want to apologize if I offend you okay?? Sorry.

First, encourage him to see a doctor, let him know intimacy is important to you and you want him to enjoy it too & that it would mean a lot to you!

It could also be that he is releasing that elsewhere, and I wont name any outings because I don't want to name something that would be offensive, but I hope you understand what I am trying to say?

If it isnt a medical reason why he is in this situation, it could be that.. I hope you two can resolve that because intimacy is so beautiful and should be experienced to the fullest!! Good luck H., I hope you and your husband can BOTH enjoy sex soon!!

Hi H.,

It's not you. There is some type of medical issue occuring. You mentioned your husbands blood pressure and glucose are normal, but how do you know if he hasn't been to a doctor? The problems he's having may be stress related, a side effect of medication, or many other things. Please encourage him to visit his doctor or an urologist.