Very Clingy 13 Month Old

Hello Michelle,
This can be very normal stage of separation anxiety...my kids did this around this time as well. She needs to let the child know she is okay as she continues with her normal routine. If she stops to hold her all day she is reinforcing this anxiety. For example, my daughter would cry when I went up the stairs and she was in the play room...I would tell her "I am here; be right back." as I kept going. I read somewhere to use the same phrase during this...don't say "I am going to my room" one time and "I am sweeping" the next. Just pick a simple phrase and repeat it whenever needed. When mine got really upset I would console them and then tell them the same phrase ...it took a few weeks but it did pass.

All kids are different. So long as there are no other major issues that could be health related, I am sure this is just a phase that she will grow out of. My son is the same way. He has to be within a couple of feet of me at all times or he pitches a fit. Funny thing is that he still refuses to say Mama! I really wouldn't worry about the baby. Has she tried actually leaving the house for a short time? Once I get away, my son actually calms down and is fine. It is just that first few minutes that are hard, when he knows I am around and he can scream to get me back. Kids are smart, even at that age. She wants mommy and she knows how to keep mommy around. She may well settle for daddy or other caregiver once she realizes mommy has "left the building."

I don't think it's an issue. She will grow out of it. Every child is different, and some are just "high need." My son is about that age and is becoming more clingy than ever. I can't even go to the restroom withough him crying. I'm sure he will grow out of it. I don't think there is a need to force independence on him before he is ready.

have you or your friend ever heard of ECI? They are really helping more with issues like these. You might tell your friend to check it out. They will come to your home and do an assessment to see how they can help and the assessment is free so you can not beat that price! You can call 800-682-5115 to find a program near you or go to http://www.dars.state.tx.us/ecis/index.shtml

J.