Vent - Seriously Pissed About Work / Do You Cry When Angry?

I used to cry when I was mad when i was younger. There was something wrong with a situation and I felt powerless and frustrated so I cried.

I guess I am more empowered now, because now when I get really mad (only once or twice a year) I literally see red and will articulate EXACTLY how I feel - no tears, just anger.

I still cry when really frustrated, which is embarrassing at work. I was recently passed over for a promotion for which I was far more qualified than the man who got it - He is former military and has a very take charge personality. I am more feminine and discuss and brainstorm and collaborate. I 100% believe he got the promotion because of his traditional male personality type.

Keep a stiff upper lip!

Ah meetings! Where the Minutes are kept and the hours are lost!
They mostly exist to create an illusion of activity.
I've known people who've cried at work - it doesn't accomplish much and co-workers won't view you the same way if you weep out on a regular basis.
Try to step back from it emotionally.
Read a lot of Dilbert in your spare time.
Get a Pointy Haired Boss squishy stress reliever and squish the heck out of it.
Learn to laugh at the sheer absurdity that happens and you'll feel SO much better.
I've worked in the IT industry for over 25 years, and although you'd THINK logic would apply on a regular basis, it often doesn't.

Yes and it's annoying. I think it's a chick thing. Of course, since I had my son 5 years ago, I cry when something is even slightly moving- SPOILER ALERT FOR AVENGERS - do not read further if you plan on seeing it- like I teared up when hulk rescues iron man -REALLY!?! I had to laugh at myself :)

If I get extremely angry I do eventually have to cry. It's better that I release my frustration through tears. :) Two of my guy cousins used to get that way as well. I don't know if they still do that because I haven't seen them upset since we've become adults.

I used to, during my very first year of work. I'd run to the ladies room, lock myself in a cubicle and sniffle.
Later, I learnt to accept the fact that 5hit happens a lot at work, and getting worked up over it serves no purpose for me. So, I'd just walk away from my seat, get a coffee, and go out to the terrace. There I'd check and make sure no one's watching/listening, and deliver a severe verbal bashing to my imaginary colleague/boss, venting out all my anger. Diffused, will come back to my seat and put my headphones on. 2 yrs, and people around me (boss incl) learned not to bug me without reason.

yes. I understand. When I am that mad - and get can't it out otherwise - as yelling or screaming won't solve the problem? I cry. Then I wipe my tears and make a plan, a check list and conquer whatever or whoever it is that is bothering me.

I don't let the small people bother me. And I've found - there are a lot of small people in the world.

I work for a global testing laboratory in high tech sales. I have to have the assistance of internal people to get my job done and sometimes that just doesn't happen quickly enough to meet the client's needs. Truly, stuff changes on a daily basis and I have to be flexible (received an e-mail this morning at 6:30 that my plan for the day has changed, really no fault of hers). I love what I do working in women's health and I have a few close colleagues I can vent to when the going gets tough....that helps even at 10 pm.

Can you use this as an opportunity to educate with the other knuckleheads what is going on? You and your boss can shine!! Fortunately, I have a director that is not a time waster with meetings. I need to sell tests, educate physicians and make money!! I got close to crying on Tuesday because I was *angry*, I haven't seen a male colleague do it or tell me about it.

Hope your day gets better...knock 'em out on Monday!!!

I cry when I'm super angry, yes. I don't know that it's a female thing, but I don't personally know any men who do it.

Sorry you're having a crappy day at work. Hope it gets better for you.

yes i cry when im angry and it makes me mad!!..i get mad at myself for crying..lol.. but if im mad enough to cry look out i will not responsible for anything i might do..lol..

Yes, I cry, when super-pissed & I agree with what Nikki said about the male stuff.

I work for a large company as well and we always have meetings that are completely useless and a waste of time..almost like "lets have a meeting to talk about what we're going to discuss at our next meeting"..lol!

Yes, I cry if I'm super mad...I hope your day gets better!

When I get to my 'point' when angry I will cry. I will go into the restroom until I compose myself as I never want anyone to see me cry!!!

Hope the day gets better and this plan is worth it to the department!

The only time I cried at work, was when I got laid off a few years ago, I went to the bathroom cried for a few minutes, and cleaned up, get back to my office, got my belonging and sat it my car and then I balled!!

I work in a very male oriented field, so I do my best to control my anger, and never cry, specially in front of men. I do feel it show weakness. Try to control your emotions at work. I have been reading up on persuasion and tactful communication, this helps a lot with getting your point across without sounding like you are whining.

I am mostly on the other side of the table as you are, perhaps the reason your boss/coworker is calling in that meeting, is to get the buy-in from the whole group. We do not work in a vacuum, if your system is perfect, but you do not have the buy-in from the users, it will never be a successful system implementation. By including them in the early stage of it, they feel their voice is heard. It's office politics and you may just have to get used to it.