My dh is scheduled to have a vasectomy at the end of June. My mom said both my dad and step-dad (warning tmi-at least for me- the daughter) both "weren't really happy with the quality of their erections" after they had their vasectomies. She didn't elaborate and frankly I don't really want anymore info. on that subject when it comes to my dad and step-dad which is why I am asking this question here. Has anyone you know of had a problem of any sort after having a vasectomy? I have never heard of anyone else saying this and then again, it's not really the type of info. a guy would be broadcasting, I'm sure.
Although I do support my husband on this, but I'm also fine with my dh not getting the vasectomy- especially if there is much of a possiblity of negative effects. I don't get pregnant easily and wouldn't be upset if I were to get pregant again. Dh is done and happy with just two kids though-so he's really the one wanting it. Thanks ahead of time!
Thanks for all the stories you shared with me ladies. I feel much better after hearing from everyone and no one having had a negative experience!
My husband had a vasectomy and there were no bad effects. He still "perfoms" very well and we have never had a problem. I felt the same way as you. I wasn't all for it but that is what he wanted to I supported him in doing so.
My husband had a vasectomy a year and a half ago. At first he thought he had made a mistake having it done, but now everything seems just fine. I think a lot of it was in his head...you know, his manhood had been cut on. He was so afraid that it wouldn't work anymore, etc. I could understand his feelings and I feel like most men probably feel that way. Everything is working just fine for him now. He made the decision to have it done because we did not want anymore children and it was cheaper for him to have it done than for me to have a tubal. Also, he only missed one day of work....he couldn't lift anything over 10 lbs for a week or so, but everything went fine. Good luck!
My husband had a vasectomy in 1996 and he did it for me. I had three c-sections and was told that I would not survive another surgery. I tried to have a tubal during my 3rd C-section but it was not successful. The doctor told my husband that I would not survive another surgery. He had a vasectomy and it was great. The love making without the worries was wonderful. You don't worry about taking the pill, the shot, or becoming pregnant. You are just one with your husband. He had no side effects. He stated that it was even better because he didn't have to worry about condoms or getting me pregnant. I say do it and have fun.
My husband has not had any issues with his and I love not having to take any birth control or worry about anything.
GL!
My husband had his vasectomy when I was pregnant with child number 4. He is almost 5 now and hubby has not had any problems afterwards. I love it because I didn't have to get my tubes tied or be on birth control.
It hasn't made a difference for me and my husband...actually it is even better when you don't have to even consider birth control anymore! Go for it...but only if you are SURE you don't want another one.
Have you thought about the Mirena IUD? It lasts 5 years and doesnt have many side effects. My Hubby and I discussed Vas/Tubes and the IUD was a better option for us. It helps with lighter periods and I thought, I would hate for him to get a VAS and I end up being on the pill or some other option to control periods. But that is just me. You can always have it taken out if you ever decide you want more children and if not then get another one in 5 years. I am on my second IUD. Even though we are not having more kids. I feel it is not so "final". I know you can get reversals, but that can get $$$....... I like having a 5 year "plan". Good Luck either way!
My husband had a vasectomy over 11 years ago. We've not had any problems or bad side effects of any kind. In fact. I think things are better. We no longer worry about getting pregnant and can be more spontaneous and relaxed.
Dear A.:
No worries! And all of hubbies friends recommend it to each other. They would not do that if it caused pain or "other problems".
Jen
My husband had a vasectomy a couple of months ago and he has had no side effects. We can't tell the difference. I do believe they do things a little different than they did 20-30 yrs ago. My husband's father had his many years ago and his experience was much more painful. It is actually quite nice not having to worry about getting pregnant or having to take pills, but I would seriously think about not having it done unless you are absolutely positive that you do not want any more children. We have 4 and were sure that we were both done. If one of you is not sure or if you are both young, I would consider something less permanent and final.
Hi A.,
My dh has the big V 23 years ago when I was pg with our younger son. We've had no "quality" issues at all. He had it on a Friday afternoon, came home and sat with an ice pack on the area, and he did virtually nothing all weekend. By Monday he felt great, and he's had no problems. Many of our friends have had it over the years, and I've heard no mention of that problem at all.
I'm also thinking quality erections can also be a state of mind -- if he or you believe you are disappointed with the quality, then you will be -- if you are happy with the quality then you will be.
A.
I have had 2 male friends that had a vasectomy done and didn't have any problems at all once the healing process was over. They had a hard time with healing, about 2-3 months before having intercourse.
This is absolutely not a problem for us. If anything, sex is better when you don't have the worry of getting pregnant. This is such a common surgery these days, I believe we'd be hearing alot more griping from the men if it resulted in alot of bad side effects. Just my 2 cents. Good luck whatever you decide.
My husband had it done several months ago and has not had any problems.
My husband had his vasectomy about 4 years ago. He had it done on Friday, was back to work Monday. Everything else was back to work, just fine, in about a week. He has had absolutely no problems. Just make sure that the three month test is done, so you can both be worry free.
no worries....no side effects......take advantage of him wanting to have it because you don't want to be messing with birth control/tubes tied/etc. My husband had a vasectomy when we married...no problem. Then had a reversal and now has had another vasectomy. He's fine. Your husband will be fine, too.
definitely not having that side effect for us after 2 surgeries for him in that area! ;) they are very sensitive not to damage nerves nowadays if you get a good surgeon. ask your surgeon if there's a real concern.
I have no personal experience with my husband having a vasectomy. I know after we had our 2nd child and my husband was "done" and desired to have a vasectomy but I really desired to have more children. After years of praying on my part - he agreed to have another baby. Well since then we have experienced the loss of a baby at birth and then an ectopic pregnancy and now pregnant and baby is due in Sept. His outlook has completely changed and realizes how precious our fertility and life is. I share this just to say that a vasectomy is such a permanment and final decision and not to be taken lightly. If you and your husband don't agree on this you may what to consider something less final at this time.
My hubby had it done 3 weeks ago and it's great : ))
He was sore for about a week but not bad enough to keep him home from work or anything, just sore. He had it done on Friday and was back to work on Monday. No complications what-so-ever. I can't wait till the count is zero so we don't have to worry about birth control anymore (we have four children!).
Good luck!!
My husband had his done 3 years ago. There has been no change, just we don't have to worry about another child. We have 3 and decided we were done. I had even gotten pregnant while on the pill. When he had his done, I think we waited longer in the waiting room for the doctor then it took for the procedure. He was a little sore for a day or two then he was back to work. The best advice is to talk to the doctor, he will have more info on the side effects and how common/rare they are. Good Luck!
Science and medicine have advanced a LOT since those days. They now have in office prodcedures (your dh won't even have to take off his shoes) and the man is out the door in the same afternoon! Because they no longer cut into that delicate area to perform the vasectomy, there's minimal chance of any side effects. You'll love the worry free birth control by this time next month. Good luck!
My (ex)husband had a vasectomy almost 10 years ago with no ED at all. He did some research and found the one doc in FW at the time that did a 'stitchless' vas.--MUCH less invasive and quicker healing time--much preferred over the traditional procedure.
My husband had a vasectomy over 4 years ago and it has never caused a problem with his erections. As a matter of fact, now he's even more eager due to not having to worry about unwanted pregnancy!
I would suggest researching pros and cons online and discussing it with your husbands doctor. Good luck!
No worries at all in fact you can relax because he is taken care of and you can enjoy the bennefits of sex.
L. T
My hubby has had no side effects. And he is just fine in the erection department. I would think that we do it more now that the fear of pregnancy is diminished. He had it about 8 years ago. I would think that they are done a little differently than the old days, and there are newer ways of doing them that don't traumatize the area so much. So I would think that if it was your dad and step-dad then they were probably done in the early 1970's. So that may have indeed been the problem.
The only problem we had was the day of surgery. With the pain med in hubby thought it would be ok to walk around the mall, even with the jock strap on and he thought the next day that wasn't such a good idea after all. So I always tell everyone to heed the doctors advice and rest the "boys" so to speak and ice or whatever he tells you to do.
Good luck,
L.
My husband had one about 12 yrs ago. NO issues with him except for the first weekend right after the procedure. You know the drill with men..."I am fine". Well he swelled so much we thought he was going to explode. Just FOLLOW Dr. orders and you will be fine.
As for the after effects, I have noticed nothing and neither has he. His sex drive is still as sky high is it was when we married 20 yrs ago.
TF
My husband had a vasectomy 22 years ago and...no problems at all!
My husbands had one and several of our friends have had one and i have never heard of any side effects from them. As a matter of fact our sex has been better since he had his vasectomy, and he does recommend one to all his buddies that are done having kids. Of course that's probably because we know we can't get pregnant. He had it done 7 years ago and never a complaint. Also my dad had one 30 years ago and never a complaint. And that is something my mom and i do talk about with each other. Good luck!
My friends and I talk about alot of stuff and both our husbands have had vasectomies. My husband hasn't complained once, and neither have I and my friend didn't say anything about any issues/side effects. Just be sure he follows doctors orders- my husband didn't went swimming before he should have and ended up with a temporary but painful infection. :) Don't go there! We wouldn't change this decision for anything.
