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Just do Kegels to start. www.babyfit.com has some good articles about it to get you started. The weights don't make much difference unless you are doing a couple hundred reps of Kegels a day and aren't satisfied with results in 6-8 weeks. The weights might help you recognize the muscles to contract if you don't know how to Kegel properly. Be patient. Your body has been through a lot having 2 kids. It will improve, but you will never be exactly like it was before having kids. Aging also plays a role in this and you can't reverse that entirely. As for enjoyment of intimacy, you might try some new techniques because sometimes that's a bigger factor than physiological changes of childbirth. I've seen women who swear they have great sex even though you'd never know it by looking at their "equipment" post 3 or more kids...and yes, I happen to be one of them. Best wishes! Nurse midwife Mom of 3