I posted almost a year ago about my husband threatening to disappear with my son over some issues with my nephew.
I wanted to tell everyone who responded how right they were and how I followed everyone's advice.
I saw a lawyer, and she helped me file not on a divorce petition, but also a restraining order and a protective order. My work gave me extra money so I could have a safe place to stay when my husband was served, and that went without incident.
He has moved out, and has visitation twice a month, while I retain sole legal responsibility for our kiddo.
It's exhilarating - this sense of freedom. I no longer have to be afraid in my own home! I can watch tv. My kiddo can splash in the bathtub! Such little things - but it means a lot when you couldn't do it.
I couldn't have done this without tons of help. My parents have financed my divorce, pick up the slack for me with child care, and my dad is slowly but surely repairing all the damage my husband caused to my house.
My lawyer has stretched every dollar I've given her to the point that I'm sure she's working for free now, because she believed that strongly that I needed out of my marriage.
My work gave me the money to allow me to have a safe place to stay, and my boss gave me time off to get myself & my kiddo out of the house.
My sister, my best friend, my coworkers, and all those here who listened to my story, have been my sounding board - giving me support as I worked towards this decision.
I'm so grateful to have this new life, so thank you, everyone .
I don't have a question - is that bad? Can that serve as my question? Lol
Yay!
Good for you!
I have a close relative going through this right now.
She just signed a lease & will be moving out in a few weeks.
She's stayed WAY too long.
Way to go! So nice to hear an update with so much hope.
You sound like a very strong woman. It is always good to ask for help.
Stay strong..
You have been reminded of how much you lungs love the taste of air. So take that deep breath and forge ahead. I will wish you nothing but the best!
Having waked your path, I know how hard it was to do what you did. So... Big Fat Congratulations Sister!!!! I am literally crying right now I am so happy for you and your son. Reading this is the best way I could have started my day.
I sometimes wonder what happens to the women who post here in desperate situations. I am so glad to hear about your happy ending.
All the best for you and your son!
I'm glad that you are doing better and have taken steps to make a better life for yourself and your child.
Wow.
And your Lawyer is good... and so nice. Doing all of this smart as a whip.
Good.
And good your family is there for you too.
Great.
And your Employer too, for helping one of their own.
Wow.
Just Wow.
WOW.
Continue to take care of yourself.
Do not ever give any leeway to your Ex or any type of custody to him.
Ever.
Do not ever let him manipulate you.
Continue to stay smart and on top of things.
GOOD for you.
I am so proud of you! I am so happy you had so much support, what a wonderful boss you have!
Blessing on your new life :)
Good for you and your kiddo!
Glad to read an update like this!
I'm so happy for you; you did it!! Big hugs!!
Sooooooooooooooo happy for you!!!
Prayers for continued success!!
I'm so happy for you and your son! You are very brave. I can't imagine what life must have been like for you!
How wonderful for you to have made this step. And made even more so by the incredible support system you have, including your boss.
YAY!!!!!!
:) khairete
S.
Angie, that is incredibly, amazingly inspiring. Wow.
You kindly, graciously listed a lot of people who've helped you along the way, but what you never said was that you had the courage to ask for help. That's hard to do, and you deserve all our congratulations for doing it.
What I really want to do is save your post, so I can post it as a reply to other moms in the situation you were in. Does anyone know how to do that, technologically?
It's also just so incredibly heartening and wonderful that advice from this site helped you to make this crucial and courageous move. Thank you so much for sharing that!
Wishing you the very, very best in this world.
Mira
Way to go Mama - it's wonderful to read some good news here.
Congrats for being strong!!!
Oh my gosh - what a great story. So so so glad that you got out of what sounds like a very abusive marriage, and found your new life. I hope your post is an inspiration for other women living in fear, wondering if they can leave.
Thanks for the update - you are amazing and I'm so glad that things are working out for you. Enjoy the peace that you worked so hard to create in your life!
Wonderful. Enjoy your new life.
You must be a good person because so many people have your back.
Congrats on your new start!!
Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That is awesome ! I am so glad that you are getting a new start. Enjoy your son and your new life !
I'm so glad that you now have breathing room and can enjoy life again. I know that things are hard being a single parent, but your son will be so thankful to you as he grows up.
Hugs and strength to you.
No, that's not bad, that's awesome! Congrats!
What a great outcome! Congrats to you :) You give hope to others with your empowerment.
Wow. Welcome to your new life! Enjoy every moment. Life is good. Thank you for sharing your story.!
You are brave and strong!! Others may have helped you but you are the one that made this change happen. It is nice you are grateful to others but never underestimate or short change yourself😊. You did it!!
Wonderful to hear such of a positive story!
What a strong woman you are. Great update!
Congratulations!
I'm so glad things are going so well for you and your son!
Congrats! I'm glad it all worked out for you :-)
Awesome update!! So happy for you!
I truly hope others who have recently posted about scary husband situations are reading this to see that there is a life on the other side of the horror. I hope they can borrow some of your strength to make equally courageous moves.
Thanks for sharing!
You should be very proud of yourself. Finding a way out of problems like that are very difficult. You're an awesome example to you child and a hero in his life.
Thanks for the update, I needed to hear something positive tonight!
Wow, this is an awesome story.
I wasn't on the site back when you wrote your original posts, but it sounds like you really built a better future for yourself and your son.
And sure, you had a great support network, but the driving force was YOU.
Congratulations. I hope you and your son have the very happy future that you deserve.
Your H was pretty scary. You have a lot to be thankful for.
Oh how I wish some in my life had been so courageous.
Then their children could have splashed in the bath.
