I have a big problem im a dad and a husband till I got a phone call from my wife to let me know she was not happy with me and said it was not working between us so she wanted a divorce. And she also told me she had meet a person but my question is she she's been unfaithful she has a boyfriend. What can I do to get custody of my kids?
CA is a no fault state, so whether she had an affair or not is irrelevant. You should file for dissolution and ask for temporary custody pending the final order.
Which ever of you can make the better case for being in the best interest of the children will get custody. Your wife leaving and meeting someone new is not grounds for losing custody. Make sure you act out of love for your kids, and not hurt and selfishness. Unless she is actually unfit, your best outcome will probably be 50/50 custody.
Get a lawyer and know your rights.
I am so sorry. Hire a lawyer. Also I have seen situations like this actually work out and years later its a "healthier" relationship. God bless.
J.,
I am so sorry you got that call. I have been in your shoes and it sucks. You need to find a family attorney. Most will give you a free consultation. Before you go, make a list of questions. And take somebody with you. When you are going thru this you are emotional and don't always hear everything or forget to ask something. I was advised that if you own a home. Do not move out of it. Do what is best for your kids and stay strong. Talk to your family and friends because you will need a really good support system behind you. This will pass and you will survive it. God Bless
J., I'm sorry you are going through this. You need to be the one to petition for custody first to give you a better shot of keeping full custody of them. You really do need a lawyer, legal aid maybe able to help you if you can't afford one.
Good luck! and good for you for fighting for your kids!
J.,
Sorry to hear this. Hire a lawyer ASAP and file for custody first.
Good luck!
You need to get a lawyer and file for custody with the courts. You'll have a better chance of getting custody of you request 50/50 custody since she's just a bad wife, and you said nothing about her being a bad mother.
So sad for you. I always thought that if one person cheated on another that that person should forfeit everything and just be grateful for whatever the other person is willing to give. There is no excuse for cheating. Not only is she being unfaithful to you but also to her family. Sad. Good luck.
Oh, be careful with your finances. I've known people who do the nastiest things in situations like this regarding finances along with the situation with the children.
