Two in Diapers!

I was in the same situation as you were. I had my daughter on April 17, 2004 (her due date was 4/12) and got pregnant right away. My son was born on March 30, 2005, however his due date was April 12 as well. You will make it. I worked 4 days a week up until I had my son and then went back to work 5 days a week. It was really nice. My daughter was too little to be jealous of my son and she really enjoyed trying to help me with things and playing mommy with him. Now that they are a little older I can absolutely say that I would have not changed it for the world and I actually reccommend it because of how close they are now. There were times when I thought I wasn't going to be able to make it through the day but everything works out and I have a wonderful husband who helped out a lot. If you need anything else, just let me know.

I have 3 kids - my oldest 12 lives with her granparents, but we have the 2 little ones living with us... they are 1 (Boy - 6/9/05) and 2 (Girl - 3/6/04). I was afraid and cried many nights when expecting my little boy. But it has been more fun then I ever expected... yes diapers get very costly, but watching them teach eachother and play is so neat. They are able to share so much... toy, bed time, bath time and for the first time the same size diaper.

Most people say to wait 3 year between kids that way one is out/almost out of diapers before they other one is here, I've enjoyed having the 2 in diapers... guess I just use to it - we are expecting another on in June 07, so we may have 3 in diapers if my little girl doesn't potty train soon.

Don't worry about when they are coming or how close they are... love them, enjoy them, let them play and teach eachother. They will be close in age and close to eachothers heart - they will have a best friend and playmate for live, in diapers or not.

Take care and good luck - it's a lot easier then it looks!!!!

Hey M.,

First, let me say congratulations! Next let me tell you, it's so much fun and so much work you will certainly love it!

I have two little ones, both girls ~ the oldest just turned two and my baby is almost 6 months. They are just less than 18 months apart.

The first two months were the toughest. Even in 18 months, I forgot how demanding a baby (newborn) can be, but then you get the hang of it and pretty soon your infant is getting bigger and less demanding of your every waking moment.

With my older daughter, I remember vividly how excited I was the first time she sat and watched me make dinner (without howling for my undevided attention). With my little one now, there wasn't much time when my 18 month old wasn't fighting (and often winning) my attention.

My best advice is to make (even if it's scheduled) time for yourself as best you can and rest now, because once baby two is here, you'll have your hands full.

I went back to work when my baby was 7 weeks. I love my job and can't imagine staying at home. My hubby works evenings and therefore watches the girls while I work all day, so child care isn't an issue for us ~ we are very blessed. Don't forget how fast time goes. Try to enjoy the baby-time and remember no matter how great or how awful ~ it goes so fast. Faster still, with baby two.

Best of luck and many blessings!

L.

hi M..
my name is P. and i also have 2 in diapers. they are 12 months apart and to be honest i thought the diapers were the easier part. i had trouble finding time to even take a shower. at first it will be pretty hard but with time it gets easier. my 2 are toddlers now and they don't really have the sibling rivalry. infact i would suggest that when the new baby is born get your older child involved a.s.a.p . we told our oldest that he was going to be such a good big brother and that we knew he would always take care of his little brother and now that they are older he really is a good big brother and they are so close.

M.,

First-CONGRATULATIONS on both miracles!! I can relate...my son was born on 9/16/04, and my daughter was born on 12/20/05-they are 15 months apart. I wont lie-it is hard, but as my daughter gets bigger, they seem to play together and it is so nice!! It's a lot of work-take advantage of any downtime you have-try to time their naps so they are napping at least at some point together. Ours nap in the afternoon at the same time. My husband and I both work full time, so also, cherish the time you do get to spend with your kids. There are times we are both going crazy, but at the end of the day, there is nothing like seeing those two little miracles as they love and kiss you goodnight! I'm looking forward to them going to school and growing up together-they will be great friends, and I'm sure yours will too!! Keep me posted!! I live in Maineville, OH near Cincinnati. Not sure what part of town you are in, but feel free to ask my any questions!! GOOD LUCK!!

C.

Hey there, congratulations!!! My little ones are 14 months apart, and it was not easy at first, but now that they are a little older, I wouldn't have it any other way. We missed the 'Irish Twins' by 2 months (children that are 12 monts apart). It will be a lot to get used to a first, and a lot of work, but it really is nice having them so close. They like a lot of the same toys and games, and we only have to go through the diaper thing once at one time. If you can enlist some extra help when baby # 2 is born, do it! That is my regret, that I didn't ask for more help, I tend to think that I can do it all. But it will be fine, just make sure you eat right and take care of your self and #2. It will also be important to spend extra time with baby #1 so that they do not feel displaced both before the baby is born and after. I am very hapy for you! you can do it!!

Hi M.,

I too, had two children in diapers. In fact, they were only 10 months apart. I will tell you it is like having twins on some aspects. My kids were boys and the younger one always wanted to be like his bigger brother so I saw my baby grow up faster than I wanted him to. They were very close and played so good together. You will be tired but it can be fun. Just enjoy your experience because it is gone before you know it. If you have any further question just feel free to contact me.

Best of luck,
Jackie

Congratulations M.!!!!!

I have two daughters 18 months and 2 days apart. It is hard at times but worth it! I prepared my first daughter for the new baby by watching the baby stories on TLC and a also got her a baby doll, clothes, stroller and crib to play with before the new baby came. I also bought her a new doll so when she came up to the hospital to meet her sister she "had a baby too" I am a SAHM so I am not sure what to tell you about going back to work. I will say that it is not to hard having both in diapers. My oldest will hand me the babies daiapers and also throw both of theirs away. When the baby crys she runs over to her to see what is wrong and will put her pacifer back into her mouth. It is so adorable. I did a GREAT job in preparing her to be a big sister so she is deeply in love with the little one. There is no anger or resentment at all. I know that they will grow up to be best of friends.

First of all Congradulations!!!My first two were really close also..Its going to have its rough times but If I can do it I know you can! Just be sure to keep a lil YOU time so you dont go insane..The nice part is when the oldest has outgrown something the younger will inherit. However it can be expensive and hectic but then again that happens all the time .Dont worry things will all work out for you and you'll have two amazing bundles of joy..For a while you might even worry about..HOW CAN I LOVE THIS BABY AS MUCH AS THE FIRST..I know that came to mind with me..But its not as hard as you'd think..It just happens and its the most amazing feeling in the world..So once again CONGRADULATIONS!!!!

I had two in diapers and it was tough at first but you will get a system in place. My girls are close in age (they are 2 and 3 now) and it is wonderful! They are very close. And they can wear the same clothes! Good luck and enjoy it!

Hey there! Where are you from? I'm from Milan, IN. I'm a part time hairdresser. My kids are really close in age as well. Aimee was born July 26, 1994, and Stefan on Aug. 7, 1995. Although the bottles and diapers were a challenge, I breezed through it somehow. I worked full-time back then, as well! Now that my kids are 11 and 12, and I decided not to have more, because of delivery complications, I provide childcare in my home, and have kids who are small. I sell candles to supplement my income, at home and online at www.miabellascentved.com, and TOTALLY enjoy these kids being small at the same time, as I did my kids. I work at the salon on Saturdays, to get out of the house. The real struggle with them is now...sibling rivalry, as they are growing up. When they were in diapers..it was NOTHING. lol. Let me know if you have any questions! I'd love to help, any way I can. I know the thought can be very overwhelming! God Bless you and your family! ~N.

I adopted two children who are 12 months apart. It was sort of difficult at the beginning, but it gets easier as they get a little older. Mine are 11 and 12 now.
There are really good things about it too. They always have someone to play with, or to stick up for them in a group, they get along pretty well for the most part and mine are a boy and a girl so they get to know a variety of children.
I reccomend having the children close, although then they all grow up at the same time and are gone.

My boys are very close Noah is 4/13/2005 and AIdan is 4/20/2003. It's great at times when they are little together but it has it's down points too. I got lucky with two boys therefore they like the same type of toys to play with.+ However somedays I feel like I never stop from one to the next and amlucky to remember my shoes. As the boys' birthdays approach(which we do together) and they are getting older it is getting easier.

COngrats. my oldest two are 16 months apart both boys. it's fun let me tell you, but i wouldn't trade it for the world now, they were very close when tehy were little and all teh old toys and clothes were still fashionable adn i didn't have to buy much. my oldest grew up a little faster i think because of it though, he was my helper, we ook him out of his crib earlier than we would have to avoid buying another and that was an ordeal on teh smae hand though he was off a bottle and potty trained earlier as well. i spent a large amout of time when i was pregnant working out the details and trying to have my oldest as ready as possible. beleive it or not as intimedating as it is it's not all that different fromte h first time around. it's jsut double of evertyhing, you get a bottle for the baby or sit down to nurse you get a sippy cup and a snack too. whatever routine you have with your oldest as far as you getting ready for work, will work just as well with two kids, i let my oldest play upstairs and took the bouncy seat in teh bathroom. and so on and so forth. you find a rythem really quickly the second (and third and fouth) times around, you really do. good luck and take care.

M.,

Congratulations! I can't tell you how it will be but I understand your nervousness. I am in the same boat. My son is 13 months old and the next will be born in two months. We did plan it this way but it still is scary at times to think about. I just hope that they love each other and will keep each other entertained at some point.

My two are 20 months apart and I don't think it is any harder then having one because they are so close together. If the new one is a girl you get to reuse the clothes and toys get to be reused. If I had it to do all over again I would not plan it but I also would not change it. There are sometimes that it can get hard and you feel like your going to pull out all your hair but it makes life fun. Congratulations and good luck

Congradulations!!!! I know what you are going through. My boys are only 13 months apart and I thought I was going to die when I found out I was pregnant the second time. Now I actually have 3 and they are 12, 11, and 9. Yes it was a challenge at times but like one said before, you develope a system. My kids have always been very close to each other and its nice because they always have a playmate. I don't regret having them so close together. Yes I'm not going to lie, you will have your hands full but as the first one learns to potty train or walk or anything like that, the second one wants to immitate the older one so it goes a little quicker. Well good luck!!!!

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M. -

Congratulations! I was in the exact same situation as you are just last year...and I wouldn't change a thing. When my son was 4 months old I found out that I was pregnant and due on his 1st birthday. Our daughter was born six days early...which I'm glad since they will each have their own birthday.

It was very challenging in the beginning, but things are much easier now (20 & 8 months). Since my son was not walking when he was 12 months, I had to carry both of them upstairs just to change a diaper. So I eventually got an inexpensive changing table for downstairs. That was a lifesaver. As my son got older, I had him "help" with taking care of his little sister...which in turn keeps him out of trouble. For example, when it is time to get my daughter dressed, he puts her clothes in the hamper for me. He sees it as a game.

Even though you'll have two in diapers at the same time...think of it this way - you'll be done with diapers sooner than if your children were a few years apart.

Good luck!

I can relate.. I thought I was going to end up with 3 in diapers for a bit there. My daughter is July 2 02 and my son is June 2 03.. 11 months apart (Irish Twins.. under a year part). At first it was hard. I was lucky my daughter was very good and I had my mom to come and help some in the beginning. After my son was about 1 they really started playing together and I was amazed that it got sort of easy. I didn't have to play with them 24/7 as they had each other to play with. I was able to dishes or laundry and watch them play together. I had my third this year in March. While I was pregs my oldest at 3 finally finished potty training. I was like two in diapers one thing 3.. ahhh. My daughter was close to being down with diapers at 2 but I think because her brother wasn't ready she wasn't.. same with the pacifer.. She was already to give it up then started stealing his. They are very close and now that my daughter is in preschool my son is learning how to deal with out her. Sort of a hard time for him...
Good luck!!
K.

I only have one, but my best friend has two under two years old. She says they play really well together, and will be able to play with the same things and have more similar interests than kids that are far apart. She says it is hard at first (but so is going from no kids to one kid!), but getting into a routine is the most important factor to keeping your sanity. Congratulations and good luck!

I had 3 in diapers as I had twins 12 months after my son was born! I was soo happy when my oldest was finally potty trained so that I was only down to 2 in diapers! It might be difficult at first but you will get used to it and it will just become part of your routine!..and just think of it this way, atleast you will be getting all of the diapers out of the way (eventually!). Now, potty training 2 at once is going to be difficult for me!

Congratulations! Yes, I know how you feel, I have two that are 13 months apart, and I thought I was going to die when I found out I was pregnant again. But I'd say after the first 6 months it got easy, and easier as the years go on. They are inseperatable and the best of friends, even though my oldest is a girl and the other is a boy (actually my husband likes it because he seems to think our son will "watch" our daughter when she is around boys when she's older). So yes its scarey, but as soon as the youngest can start playing it gets easier. It is so great that we actually thought about doing it again when we had #3 back in May, but I do believe there is no #4 in our future.

I thought it was great too because the oldest one isn't old enough to understand what is going on, and therefore lessens the jealousy factor. Actually my two have only ever known life with each other and until my youngest was born did they fully understand that there was a time when it was only my daughter.

I too worked full time when my first babies were babies, and it was tough, but you made it through it. All I can offer is the same I would offer to any mom, cherish every moment you have because they grow up soooo fast.

Drop me a line if you have any other questions, I would love to offer any advise about this, it is very scarey, but wonderful at the same time.