You're leaving our some really crucial information in this question. This isn't an average 12yo TV/Grades question.
I think you REALLY need to start working with a counselor, yourself. Cancer Clinics offer family counseling for very very good reason: the stress of a longterm illness, uncertain outcome, etc... Creates some unique difficulties.
One of which is denial/pretending everything is normal / the cancer (or other illness/disease) is in a vacuum and affects no other area of life.
This is your 12yo who is
- only 1 month into a Leukemia diagnosis
- struggling with depression
- may be taken out of school in the coming weeks for several months to up to a year or longer
- looking at some intense medical treatments
- looking at possibly not being alive in a year
While I realize you're looking for something you can control, and trying to keep things as normal AS POSSIBLE... But things are NOT normal right now.
They won't be normal for some time.
Trying to act as if things are normal (grounding her from TV/Games until her grades improve... When she may well be pulled out of school in a week or two)... Is only going to cause unnecessary hardship on everyone.
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Here's an example for you to see better:
- My son is laying in bed playing Videogames & watching movies 10 hours a day. What should I do?
- My son has pneumonia & severe asthma and is bed bound, playing Videogames & watching movies 10+ hours a day (too tired even to read). What should I do?
= TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT AMSWERS
((He is, by the way. We spent 3 nights in the ER this week, and if this wasnt something we've "done" a dozen times, he'd be admitted. At a certain point parents are trusted to provide medical care for their kids. PICC lines, ventilators, NG-tubes, etc. and if its 24/7 care needed, then you get 2 nursing shifts at home to cover you while you sleep & work. You're only admitted for acute care (surgeries, changing protocols, etc. until they're stable & you're trained on their medical needs).
Being a parent if a medically fragile child = a different kind of normal.