Hi moms.
Im currently trying to get pregnant with my second. We have been trying since my daughters first birthday (November). She's now a 20mo old and it hasnt happened yet. Im beginning to worry a little. My daughter was a complete surprise, early on in my fiance and I's relationship, now we are one big (counting all our furry babies too) happy family, it's just that we'd like to add another 2 legged creature to the bunch. I have tried the little sticks that tell you when your ovulating, I ran out of them on the day I saw the second line and havent tried them since. We've tried duplicating the time of month of our first's conception, and tried computing the "right time" using a fertility calculater thingy on my phone.... all with no success. I cant say we've given it a GOOD shot every time since he and I both work overnights and are almost never home together at night, and fooling around during the day is akward for him and though we may mess around, Im not sure HE is giving it a good shot (if you'all know what I mean...I dont want to get too into it). Anyways, I just want a little feedback from other moms. Was my daughter a miracle? (other than all babies being miracles)...should I just keep trying? should I have fertility testing done? Is there natural ways of helping things along? I really didnt think it would be this diffcult. Please help?
Thanks!
M.
Quit trying and it'll happen.
Besides that one, put your feet up the air for like a half hour after your done rest them against the wall if you have to. Get busy atleast 2-3x a week and if you still don't have results in 6-12mos. then seek a doctor's help.
Get the book TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR FERTILITY. I found it to be really helpful.
You can track your temperature to figure out when you REALLY ovulate. There are sites like fertilityfriend.com that walk you through the process, and help you track and interpret the results.
Sometimes, even when your timing is just right, it can take a while. It took 9 months with my first pregnancy, 8 with the next two, and my last baby was a surprise.
I wouldn't worry about needing fertility testing or treatments until you, at the very least, track you temp for a few months. The doctor would most likely make you do that anyway.
Good luck!
I'll second getting Taking Charge of your Fertility. Also, working third shift could be delaying things. It alters your ovulatory patterns. Skip the ovulation prediction tests and start temping!
M.,
I am in the same boat you are! Unfortunately my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage- but the pregnancy was a surprise. Now that we are trying again its tough- because we actually are trying to "schedule" sex. We both work different shifts-I work 2nd shift and he works 3rd shift and we only share one off day together. I too have tried the ovulation kits and found it very frustrating. I have been told by numerous people that as soon as I stop thinking about what time of the month it is and just enjoy being with my husband that it will happen but given our schedules its not that easy. I wish I had some advice for you but I still haven't quite figured out the trick myself. It seems that if I told my husband that I think I was ovulated it put too much pressure on him- and it wasn't fun for either of us. Good luck to you!
