Trying to Get Pregnant - Langhorne,PA

I'm not too experienced with this as we have been pretty lucky, but I know they have an ovulation thing that's with the pregnancy tests at the stores...you pee on it and it is supposed to tell you when you are ovulating i think. have you tried that at all?

go get a ovilation theramonter (didn't work for me i had to take shots0 and now ahve 3 kids and the last one at the age of 42. Wal mart sells them for about $15.00.
good luck

Read Toni Weschler's book- photocopy her chart and start charting exactly as she teaches RIGHT NOW.
I didn't want to get pregnant for the first 9 years of marriage (married at age 26), but stopped the pill after a couple of years so we were just casually trying not to get pregnant for most of our married years until I hit 35, then decided it was time to start trying. We both assumed that we might have some fertility problems because we hadn't used Birth Control and hadn't had an "oopsie" in 7 years.
Bought Toni's book, started charting (and I have always had very irregular cycles so I charted with a bit of skepticism).
We hit it about 6 months after starting charting, had my daughter when I was 36, then waited a couple years started charting again and after about 5 months, got pregnant with my 4 yr old son when I was age 38.
Buy the book today...you are starting to get to the age where time is of the essence!
Happy babymaking!!

Andre

I feel your frustration, T.. We've been trying for almost 4 years now and still nada. We've gone from being beyond active to attempting only during the "required" time, done ovulation tests, special diets, etc. We've both been tested and we're both fine...it's all about timing. Best of luck to you!

Hi T.,

I haven't taken the time to read other posts, so I'm sorry if I repeat anything you have already been told.

I used ovulation kits to conceive my daughter, and I just ordered my second batch to use for #2. I think they really help so you know when to do the BD (Baby dance :)). You have to use them following the directions. Pay close attention to them. I ordered from babywishes.com, and got 10 for about $8.00. I don't think that's too expensive.

Another thing I do is chart my basal body temperature on Fertilityfriend.com. You have to buy a special thermometer (I got mine at Walmart), and take your temp right when you wake up in the morning (usually arond the same time). This allows you to see a clear picture of your cycle. I am so thankful that I started doing that because I have learned that I ovulate late (anywhere from cycle day 17-20), and that my luteal phase (the time from ovualtion to your period) is short, usually only 10 days. I have been able to take this info to my doctor and we have devised a plan in case I do not become pregnant on my own in a couple of months. The EWCM (egg white cervical mucous) you brought up is also a very good sign that Ovulation is occuring, so I would imagine if that's all you do at the very least you will become pregnant before too long.

Good luck!

Hi T.,
I think you're right on track. Those symptoms are definitely all indications that you are ovulating--so try to time sex for that window. Every other day. Relax, it will happen. As for your age, don't feel pressured. I, too, am a more "mature mom", as I had my son at 39!

Hi T.,

I was in your situation and decided to try the ovulation predictor kits. Yes, it works. I bought 2, and got pregnant after using the 2nd one. 40 years is undoubtedly a "now or never" time. We may be feeling vibrant and healthy, but waiting a few more years is not the same decision as it was when we were 30! I recommend the predictor test. Buy one, see what happens. Put a time limit say, 3 months on the plan, and if no go, then OKAY. Love your son with all your strength. Having a 2nd is such a personal decision, and it does change everything, so weigh your decision carefully. Best to you for whatever the outcome :)

So, my first though when reading is - if you want to get pregnant, you need to have more sex. I know that us women don't always have a raging libido, but sex is what gets us pregnant! I increased frequency 2 at least 3 times a week and was pregnant within 2 months each time we were trying. I had a really happy husband too.

Hi, T.,

Honey, put some romance back into your life.

Get a lace table cloth and some candles and have
a nice romantic dinner at least once a week.

Take showers together by candle light and make sure
your bedroom has a romantic flair. Get some soft music on
and some massage oil and enjoy each other.

Now about getting pregnant.

3 days after your period, enjoy the above with your husband.

Do the above each month and see what happens. Good luck. D.

All the other other advice you got is excellent, the thing I'd like to add is a resource: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ The site goes along the lines of what you were talking about (tracking your cycle based on different cues from yoru body) but it also takes into account your basal temperature and charting the whole thing so you can visually see when you're ovulating.

Good luck. Relax as much as you can. And certainly talk to your doctor or midwife when you have any questions.

T.,
I would suggest asking your doc to check you for any thyroid problems. I had hypothyroidism and didn't know it and one of the symptoms is trouble getting pregnant. I got it after the birth of my first. I was to the point where I thought we would not be able to have another until this was found and literaly, after 1 month of being on the thyroid medication, I got pregnant.
So check that out, just to make sure that's not getting in the way. Good luck!

You should read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It explains the signs that you're fertile REALLY well. I was just charting my temperatures and checking the fluids for the first time when I got pregnant. My fertile day was NOT in the 10-14 day range either. We're not overly sexual couple either, so I know I was just reading the signs correctly! I don't know if it would be that easy for you, but I really feel like the book should be required reading for all women. I thought I was reasonably well educated about my menstrual cycle, but the book totally helps you understand what's going on with your body. The book also addresses the topics of ovulation kits and when it's time to see your doctor about potential problems. She explains the pro's and cons of different medical aids to becoming pregnant too. I highly recommend it!

relax, dont stress, and it will happen...studies show the more stress you are the harder it is to get pregnant...which is why so many couples come back preggers after a romantic getaway...

Hi T.,
I am 40 and currently pregnant with my 2nd. I had a very difficult time getting pregnant. It may not be what you want to hear, but at this age, sometimes we need help. I went to the Cooper instiute for infretility in Marlton NJ. I used Dr. Jerome Check. He is one of the best in the world. I started with him in December and was pregnant by February. You can check him out online. I hope it helps. I know how depressing the process can be. Good Luck
L.

I read the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler when we were trying to get pregnant with our first son. It really helped pinpoint the exact right time to have sex.

If you do go with the ovulation tests, don't get the Answer brand. I got them and I could have sworn I was ovulating and got nothing so I researched online and found an article from cbs i think where they had done a study and the Answer brand got the poorest rating. They had made the hormone (or whatever it is) level higher than most women would ever have and only one in six tests were positive. So spend the extra few dollars and get the good brand. Good luck :)

Hi T.,
I highly recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. As others have mentioned, it explains the primary fertility signs and many other things that all women should know about their bodies. In trying to conceive our first child, now 2 years old, I charted using a basal thermometer and noting cervical mucus changes. It worked - we had been trying for 8 months prior to charting and we're not a highly sexually active couple either. Knowing when to time sex really makes a difference. When we wanted to try for our second child I began charting and conceived my first cycle. It really takes the guess work out! Get the book today - it saved me fertility testing, etc. Good luck to you.

Hi T.,
I have a few things I would recommend to you that I used when trying to conceive. You could pick up a copy of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control and Pregnancy Achievement" which is available on Amazon. I didn't try to conceive for the first time until I was 36 years old and after 6 months of getting nowhere I picked up this book and started following their recommendations such as charting, using the basal temp thermometer, etc. I also used a product that they recommended in the book called "Pre-Seed" - also available at a number of stores online. It's a replacement for your natural cervical mucus for women who don't produce a lot of their own when they ovulate. The first time I used Pre-Seed (along with the charting so I felt pretty confident that I was ovulating), I conceived. Unfortunately that first pregnancy ended with a miscarriage, but as soon as I got the okay to try again from the doctor a month later, I used Pre-Seed again and conceived my now 3 year old son. I am now 41 and decided earlier this year to have a second child and immediately started with the charting and using Pre-Seed and the second month we tried I conceived and am now expecting another baby in December. I never did use an ovulation kit, just the basal temp, charting, and Pre-Seed. This may not work for everyone, but it might be worth a try for a couple of months before getting into more invasive and expensive fertility treatments. Good luck.

I've had two babies in two years and ya know how I did it? Using $1 ovulation sticks from the DOLLAR TREE! Yes, those little suckers WORK! If you are looking to go that route they are just a lot less expensive than the ones you would get in (let's say) Rite Aid. I got preggo both times the first try...I counted to my most "fertile days" and got together with hubby those three days (hard work, I know lol).
Good luck to you!