Recently I have found myself trusting my husband less and accussing him of cheating on me at every move he makes. I am normally a very confident woman and have never been afraid of rejection by a man. My theory was if you don't want to be with me that's your problem I will find someone better. Ever since I married my husband I have suffered from severe trust issues ( my husband has never been dishonest to me). Even more so since I have had our baby I am really jealous about stupid stuff even ex girlfriends from 20 years ago. I have been having similar dreams about my husband leaving me for another woman and having no remorse about it. I normally wake up and am in tears or can't sleep anymore because the dream has felt so real. Lastnight I had the same dream and woke up at 3:45am couldn't go back to sleep so I found myself going through my husband's cell phone and writing down numbers that were unfamilar to me and looking them up through the white pages . com. I am insecure anymore about our relationship and I don't have anything to be worried about. I am afraid though if I don't figure out why I am doing this I will eventually push my husband away. Help!!!
I talked to my husband about my insecurities and he reassures me that he would never cheat on me he knows that if he did i would leave him and take my daughter in a heartbeat and he says he has too much to lose and another woman just isn't worth it. He works a lot and is a wonderful father and I am learning to put my insecurities aside because I do believe they are from within me rather then our relationship. I weigh more now then i ever have and i think i feel i am inadequate and that is what worries me so i am losing weight to help boost my self esteem. I need to work on my ego a little bit because before pregnancy when i weighed a lot less i never had any doubts or insecurities about our relationship. So for now i continue to fight the demons within. Thanks for all your advice though!!
This could be a sign of post-partum depression. I remember feeling paranoid and weepy, unhappy with things that normally made me happy, and obsessing over the strangest things. I suggest you talk to him about it, or a girlfriend, or even a therapist. I didn't take drugs for my PPD, but many women have found them helpful, a trip to your doctor might be appropriate.
You need to get yourslf together before you lose him. Stop being insecure and start having confidence about yourself. You are very young and not yet matured into a woman ...Even though you had a baby you seem immature. Most woman would give anything to have what you have. You are being a marter and you need to get things together for you, your husband and your child to live a happy and healthy life. Stop putting yourself first and put your baby first. Make a happy marriage and move on man...Good luck and God Bless
hey i have been feeling the same way. i was always the one saying "ow i kno my bf isnt cheating" and i cud feel so confident bout it, even tho it sounded naive. i am 97% sure that my man aint cheating but lately i have been feeling really insecure and stuff and thinkin that whenever my man goes upstairs hes talkin on the phone or something. its lil things.i always am checking his phone. im always thinkin that when my man comes home late after hanging out wit his buddies at work that he was with a girl. i dont kno why i am all of a sudden feeling this way becuz i was never like this with my bf who ive been wit for 6.5 yrs. but u do need to talk about this with ur husband.i talk with my bf about it and he assures me that hes not cheating and then we joke about it which makes me feel better. but i also watch to many talk shows where they say when a woman has doubts shes usually right but i dont kno!i feel strongly bout the fact that hes not cheating but sometimes i wonder.
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It might be post partumm, but it might be that you are having doubts that your husband will still want you because you have had a child. I went through this and it helps to talk with someone.
Your body has changed in many ways and you might have doubts about yourself and it's leaking into your relationship with you husband.
Be careful of looking for trouble since that's when we typically find it. Just trust him until he gives you a reason to think otherwise. If you are meant to find out, you will.
The answer may lie in you and not your husband. We first have to fix ourselves and only then we start to focus on and heal in our relationships.
Hope this helps!!
I don't know it is weird cause I am the same exact way as you only last year I had the girl my man was with tell me and tell me everything cause of going through his phone otherwise I wouldn't have known. Just watch if you suspect cause like now I am wondering cause he got off work like almost 2hrs ago and isn't home yet. It is so stupid but can happen hun' and we had two kids and now got three. I have a 5yr old, close to two year old, and my Christmas day 7 month old. I told him the same thing but he says he loves me to much, but remember that means child support to you!!! I had the dream to I don't quite get it... I don't know why I would have one like that when I orginally thought three weeks ago we were fine. I don't know but I will talk to you later hun' gtg to baby.
Hi, Listen you definitely sound like PPD. Be glad that it is just insecurity over your marriage because you and your hubby can talk it out and tell him that you need a little extra reassurance right now. I'm sure if you approach him in a non-confrontational manner and explain it to him he will understand.
I had PPD also but mine was a paranoia over death. I was scared with each of my kids that they would be sick or an accident would happen or that I would die in a accident and leave them motherless. What makes it worse was that I'm a trauma nurse so I knew all the bad things that could maybe possibly happen to them or me.
But I also knew that these were NOT normal rational thoughts and I learned to ignore them.You must know that if any of those bad thoughts were to come true you would just handle the situation and get through it. It helps to tell yourself that if he is cheating right now there is nothing You can do about it and it's not effecting me right now. If he leaves me I will worry about it when and if it happens.
My post partum feelings slowly lessened as the baby got to about 6 months old but completely went away 2 months after I stopped breast feeding once my milk dried up and my hormone levels went back to normal.
I felt the same way about my husband. I had been having an affair and my husband just found out about it. The whole time I was having my affair, I had been thinking he was doing the same. Come to find out, it was just me. We have managed to work things out after talking to one anotehr thoroughly.
