Another question made me wonder how many women know some of the things men complain about. Most of my friends are guys and yeah we talk about sex. So I will provide number one..
1. Men don't actually want sex more than they generally get. This is based on men that get it once a week, sometimes more. They are all over their wives because their wives never initiate. They apparently do this because they want to be wanted.
Yes I always point out the woman's side of this equation, it turns us off, and tell them the same thing I usually say here, communicate.
So I am sure I am not the only woman who has spoke to men on such delicate issues. So what say you, do you have any more numbers to add?
This reminds me I have to remember to ask them next time why the heck they sit there when their wives are cleaning the house....
MechanicMomma, oh heck yeah you nailed that one!! Troy had this far away look, I asked what are you thinking about, huh? do I need to get more beer? He didn't even hear me ask what he was thinking because he was inventorying the beer in his mind. :p
Theresa, very true. Hopefully we can get enough generalizations on here that some hit the nail on the head. :)
Also brought to us by MechanicMomma http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/3369637312072908801 I just love number 4! :)
Men want (and need) to be complimented as much as we do. When they aren't complimenting us... it's often times...because we aren't complimenting them.
Men do NOT get hints!
If you're mad, he has no idea why. His brain does NOT work like yours does, I promise. You need to explain IN DETAIL why you're mad and how he can fix it.
If you're thinking about something that may have something to do with him… You're WAY over thinking the issue at hand. Whatever is going on in his head is far simpler than what's going on in yours. i.e. – You're thinking, "What's that look about… Is he thinking about another woman? I bet he's cheating on me. Why is he wearing that new deodorant… She must like it…." And so on. What he's thinking about, with that look on his face… "Hmmm… I should buy some Cheetos. I haven't had any in a long time. Oh… I hope she didn't smell that. That was NASTY. Why is she staring at me… I bet she smelled that."
No man is the same as the next. And what you point out here, as well as every other response, is a SWEEPING GENERALIZATION.
And sweeping generalizations annoy MEN as much as they annoy US!
:)
**Course, what I REALLY want to say is....Men are like linoleum floors; If you lay 'em right, you can walk on 'em for 40 years!! But then that would be under the category Top Ten Things Women NEED To Know About Men But Don't Want To Hear.
Men need to be needed.
My Mom always reminds me of this b/c I am a do-it-yourself kind of girl and she gently reminds me that I need to let my husband "do" for me.
That (especially if you're married) it doesn't matter how sexy you ARE it matters how sexy you FEEL, your attitude is everything and if you walk in the room like you're hot sh*t he's gonna agree with you.. because at 7 1/2 months pregnant with hairy legs and messed up hair, if I own it my husband thinks I'm the sexiest thing ever LOL
Which sorta goes with what one mom said about husbands cheating with ugly women... guaranteed those ugly women didn't think they were ugly.
That when they are not respected their spirits are broken just like when we do not feel the love ours is too.
Men are not simple. They have deep, meaningful emotions whether they can easily express them or not.
I just want to tell you that the sex input is great!! I used to work very closely with a man and that was his concern too. He was 69 years old and he would say, "Why doesn't my wife pay me some attention sometimes?!"
i know this!......i figured that this is why men always cheat with women not as pretty as their wives.......because they want to be appreciated more.
we all do.
mechanic mamas made M. laugh and I aree, My ex used to say that all of the time, we did stuff 3-4 times a week and he wasnt happy at all, and it was b/c i didn't intiate it and he didnt feel like i was enjoying it as much, apparently the other girls he slept (while with M.) were very verbal about how much they enjoyed it...oh well!
I only have guy friends pretty much, they don't really complain except about not getting any....girls find a way to be bothered by everything and overthink, thats why I think mechanic mamas statement sums it all up!
Men are not women. They do not think like us, they do not need the same things we do. They are men.
Learn who your man is. Listen to what he is saying.
Some men cannot express what they feel, so when you notice their reactions, make a note to yourself.
He liked that compliment.
He was happy after spending the entire day outside.
He seems to always wear that same shirt.. Why? Is it soft, Is it short sleeve?
He seems to need about 20 minutes alone when he first gets home...
Whatever it is. and then allow him to be who he is and love him as he is. You cannot change him. It does not mean he does not love you because he cannot change. He is the person you married.
Every once in a while I will randomly ask my husband - "what are you thinking about?" and he always says 'nothing". I try to tell him he cant not be thinking about nothing. I mean seriously, you have to have something going on up there. He said something along the lines of "why would I HAVE to be thinking about something?" so I tried to explain to him that you cant just turn your brain off. Unless you are watching TV or focusing on something specific then you have some sort of thought going on, Right? Well the other day Im not sure if it came up on his part or mine but he came out and said something so random and I just looked at him and said where the hell did that come from and he went on this rant about - well first I was thinking about this that got me remembering the time we did this and it made me think of so and so who knows this person that owns a whatever and then I thought wouldnt it be cool if.... you get the point. I just thought it was so funny that he sat there and thought up this ridiculous series of thoughts when he says that men just dont let their minds wonder like women do
I think people need to stop generalizing. Men do this...women do that... i was a virgin when I met my husband at age 22. He did not want to pressure me into having sex, so he waited to I intiated it. a little over three years latter he still never intiates it. I think this is because he doesn't want to be turned down. He knows if I want sex I am going to have sex so he doesn't want to risk getting shut down if he thinks I don't want it (he doesn't have the highest self esteem.) Oh and my husband never sits and watches me clean. he is either taking care (distracting) our toddler so I can get things done or he is helping. The main reason I married my hubby is because he is so greatful to be with me, and he shows this by never taking for granted everything i do. I mean he works two jobs and still says he thinks I have it harder staying home and raising the kids.
