Toileting

You did not say whether the daycare is a large organization or a home group. I have worked in large daycares. They make children take naps daily which might explain the lack of desire to go to bed(I believe it's a state law) and they cannot necessarily follow through on the moment that every child needs to use the bathroom. It doesn't sound like there is anything medically or emotionally wrong. There are quite possibly 8-12 children under the care of one person who doesn't have the time to race someone to the bathroom when he actually needs it (as opposed to the timer) Not that he isn't getting quality care, as I assume he is, he is just in line with all sorts of other children. If this is a babysitter and there is no one else other than him then that person can certainly spend more time waiting it out. Believe me I have two older sons who survived daycares and neither of them wets their pants now or finishes on the floor. Once you have ruled out medical reasons for his accidents, have pulled back on drinks if you think he drinks too much before bedtime I would think you really ought not worry about it anymore. He might be going through a phase where he falls so deeply asleep that he's not aware of it. It sounds like you aren't getting any sleep either and is it possible that he misses you and knows you will come and change him/comfort him in the middle of the night? Your question said can anyone explain this behavior? so perhaps this is just what it is-his current behavior. If you feel it is a facet of his behavior and it is not acceptable then perhaps there should be consequences. Such as perhaps he remains uncomfortable for a little bit longer. Or whatever else you do to discipline. Not to worry, doesn't sound too awful, you will do fine. Not to many people want to continue wetting their pants when they get older.

I'd be a little more open-minded about the daycare suggestion. Remember, these are people who have likely assisted in the potty training of dozens if not hundreds of children.

Sometimes young children get so caught up and involved with playing and learning that they literally 'forget' to go to the potty.

The 30 minute bathroom check is pretty common in helping children with potty training. Since he's having accidents it would be worth a shot. What's the worst that could happen?

Have you gone through any life transitions in the last few months that would have your son concerned or worried? Major changes can cause kids to digress in their potty habits. Maybe have him sit on the toilet after he's 'done' for another minute or two to make sure he's finished. Do you have a potty for him, or does he just use the big toilets? Big toilets can be a scary thing for little ones- my daughter used to be afraid that she would fall in. As for at night, he may just be a heavy sleeper- just limit the amount of fluids he has to drink for an hour or so before bedtime and that might do the trick. Otherwise, put him in diapers at night. If he hates diapers, it just might do the trick!
Good luck!

I am thinking food allergies or urinary reflux. something is definitely up and it is not him being a behavior issue.
J.