Toddler Suddenly Wants Mommy at Night

Updated on March 06, 2011
F.V. asks from Columbia, SC
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I have twin girls and they have been such good sleepers since 9 months (had to cio). They are overing a very bad virus and while they were sick I spent a lot of time either on the floor, holding them etc. until they could sleep. Now that they are better one of my girls has decided she does not want to sleep without me. She climbed out of her crib and wanted to sleep on the floor next to her crib. We took one end off the cribs so they wouldn't hurt themselves and she still refuses to sleep there. She sleeps in a crib for nap just fine at my mother in law's house. Now when it is time to go to night night, she cries for me. She wants me to sleep on the floor. Her sister is in the same room and can't figure out what is wrong with her. We have had to put a gate at their door to keep her in her room. For the past two nights, she has slept by the door next to the gate. She only got up twice last night and both times I escorted her back to her pallet. Is this just a phase? Why all of a sudden does she want me to sleep with her when she has never slept with us even as infants? My husband and I are desperate for a quiet night and I would love to go back to sleeping all night. Any thoughts on the change? Am I being to harsh? She is a very strong willed little girl and I think it is just a battle of the wills.

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A.G.

answers from Pocatello on

It sounds like just a phase. But still it can be hard to deal with while you are going through it. If she would rather sleep on the floor then if I were you I would just get a little toddler bed for her or even just a toddler size mattress and put it on the floor or even next to the gate if that is what she likes right now. As long as she is staying in her room and goes to sleep I say let her be. My sister's son kinda did something similar. She finally just took away the crib and got him a little toddler bed. He was much happier after that.

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C.W.

answers from Las Vegas on

I think once she got the feeling of sleeping with you she liked it... maybe she wants it again. It's a compliment, a frustrating one but still a compliment :P I'm not exactly sure what to suggest. Maybe you could get her a toddler bed (because she's climbin out of the crib, she could hurt herself) and it might get better. Or escorting her back every time like your doing and hopefully it will just subside on its own. I don't think your being too harsh, my daughter sleeps with me... but I doubt she would if I was with my ex still because there are things I'd want to do with (ex)hubby that doesn't happen now that he's not here. I cave in because it's just me and her and I don't mind her sleeping with me... it actually makes me less worried about her safety during the night.

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M.C.

answers from Washington DC on

Yes its a phase. My daughter (4) sleeps in a toddler bed, but sometimes wants to sleep on the floor because her brother does it sometimes when he's pretending to campout. We also have a gate at the door so that she can't wander the hall and fall down the stairs at night.

As long as she is safe where she is sleeping, it doesn't matter if its in a crib or on the floor.

M.

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S.M.

answers from Atlanta on

You are doing the right thing- it's just a phase/battle of wills and when she figures out you're not going to give in and sleep with her, she'll go back to normal sleep! Just keep moving her back to her bed. I've been there!
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