Toddler-ese

Hi M.,

I have my 4 toddler in the house right now- LOL - My other 3 are ages 8, 7 and 5-- but I can tell you it's a great book, all about how to relate to your child, empathize, etc.

Enjoy your little one, they grow up way too fast.

Please feel free to call or email me. :)

All my best,

L. A.

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Hi M.,

The idea behind this book is to express empathy. Research shows the value of this for kids, and the earlier we learn it, and how to express it to them, the better for our kids. If you keep this concept in mind, you will get it right! Just like adults, kids are more resilient when they feel understood. Though you can not expect kids not to have tantrums, the combination of empathy and calm (never let them see you loose your temper) works wonders. In my mind, the other piece is to use logical concequences in place of punishment when you need to discipline.

All the best,
C.

I read it too and thought the ideas were a bit hokey but it's amazing how well they work. We started using it when my son was 13 months old, and it's changed how we communicate. I see how being simple, direct, and using very few clear words helps me get through to him when he's about to lose it. I did find, however, that I had to stick pretty close to his method - if I ever try to explain too much before he has calmed down, or if i don't point to what he wants or if i'm not imitating his level of frustration then it doesn't work.
Keep it up - with practice you'll get better, I promise! And the reward is better communication with your child!

Hi M.,

I read/skimmed through the book and my husband and I were pretty amazed how it worked. It seemed like our 18 month old whined and threw tantrums more than he used his words. When he tried "toddler-ese" he would stop mid tantrum and look at us like we were crazy but then when he realized that we understood what he wanted, he calmed down and we were able to redirect him. The only thing is it seems the more we do it, the less effective it is (sometimes). I think now he has learned to anticipate our reaction so he just fuels up for an extra big tantrum. Maybe I should reread the book!

Good luck!