Good Morning! My son just turned two and now seems to push me away and only wants Dad. He was always a Mama's boy and never let me out of his sight..I am having trouble adjusting to his independence. He takes things out of my hands, like books and won't give them back or let me read to him and shoves me away. He will give the book to my husband for him to read...is this normal behavior?
This is totally normal! You will find that he will prefer Mommy for certain situations and Daddy for others. I know its hard when you feel rejected, but try to enjoy this temporary break...he will be back!
Yes, this is absolutely normal behavior. There is not much you can do to change it. Just be patient. In time it will pass.
This is normal, and temporary. It's not that he no longer wants you from now on, so hang in there. Also, if you sort of ignore him, or at least don't try to get his affection when he's being this way, he'll probably notice and want you more. As a side note, even though this is a phase he's going through, and nothing is wrong with him, you should still maintain rules of respect as normal. Don't let him be rude to you, grab and shove. Enforce the rules, but let him grow on his own and go through his phases. Good luck!
Hi W.!
My two yr old DS is doing the same thing right now. However i think it has a lot to do with the fact that we just introduced another boy into our clan. He would rather spend all is time with his dad. But when he gets sick - he comes running. I think it is perfectly normal. He will come back - promise.
Best of luck
J.
W., this is completely normal.
When children are confident that you love them, they don't "require" you to dote on them all of the time. I think this is a sign that your son knows you will always be there, so he doesn't "need" you as much.
I say, Brava, for raising a child with such high self esteem that he wants to do things without you.
He loves you and trusts you. Otherwise he'd be at your side constantly.
When my son was 15 months old he was running around outside and fell on the concrete. He was a bloody mess (thankfully he really only bit his lip and skinned his knee) but as I was doing my best to console him he screamed GET DADDY! GET DADDY! That was such a WOW moment! Your son does still love you... I've learned to walk away and enjoy these moments of P&Q (pick up a magazine, read a book, take a walk!)
I can relate. My son is now close to 6 years old. I remember that for the first two years, it was "all about" mom. Then when he turned 2, it started being all about dad in my house too! Not much you can do. I think it's normal, especially with boys. Don't worry though. You will see that when the "rubber hits the road" (boo-boo's, mom is away, etc.), he will still want mom. When I'm out-and-about for the day, I love hearing the report upon my return, that the repeated questions all day for dad were:
""Where's mom?" and "When is she coming home?" :-)
He still needs you--he just won't admit it right now!
Remember, it's a good thing for a little boy to bond with his dad. That's how he learns what "being a good man" is all about!
Yes, yes, yes. This is absolutely normal. Hard to deal with, but normal. I am going through the same exact thing right now. My son is 2 also, I only work two or 3 days a week, the semester just finished up and we are hangin out alot lately. Well, he does the same to me - pushes me away, smacks me, wont let me help him, wont let me show him things... he even gets upset when I simply speak to him!! As soon as his dad gets home, he's like an angel straight from heaven, but only wants his daddy. I get mad, I'm hurt, I get upset, BUT I know he doesn't mean it. He is simply asserting his independence. Unfortunately, I can't tell you how to deal with it because I haven't figured that part out yet. I basically try not to get angry with him, and then just give him his space. He lets me know when he wants his mommy!! Good luck and let me know if you get some good responses...
