Toddler and Seperation Anxiety

I've read/heard sneaking out only makes things work. You need to make your goodbyes short and sweet. In time he will overcome the anxiety and learn you will be back. When little ones are little they have no concept of "mommy will be back later" They think when you leave your leaving for good. He just needs to grow up some more.

Perhaps you can get up earlier and then allow yourself some time with him right before you leave by eating breakfast with him or playing blocks (or other short game) with him. That may help also.

Can his nanny take him and play with him before you start to get ready? His anxiety wouldn't be prolonged and you can then do what you need to do without distraction. Then when you're ready to go no sneaking away, but a short and sweet goodbye ~ a hug, kiss, and "I'll be back soon, sweetheart, I love you" ~ as you hand him off to the nanny again. Basically it's common for babies and toddlers to go through separation anxiety, the best way to handle it is matter-of-factly and consistently, this way he will learn in time that mommy does come back when she says she will.

It's hard no matter what and there's not much you can do to make it feel better. But I do know the recommendation is to NEVER sneak out. That makes the child feel like if he can't trust you and especially if he can't see you. So next time you just run to the potty and he realizes you're not there - he may think you left him again and freak out! This will lead to more clinginess, always worrying you're leaving without his knowing. So, when you have to leave, tell him and that he will be okay with nanny and you love him. Be short and matter of fact and then out the door. It may feel more cold to do, but is actually better for him. Chances are, he cries when you leave but quickly recovers? I have been a working mom as well - just make sure you have specifically allocated one on one time with him daily where he does get every ounce of your attention and affection. Think quality over quantity!

I agree with all who have replied. It is a phase and he will get through it. If you get in the habit now of saying goodbye and when you will se. Him again (such as after nap time, or before dinner) he will start to understand. Just remember when you leave that he probably on cries for a few minutes and then is fine the rest of the day. Hang in there!

I think that might be where the problem is, in sneaking out. It makes them lose trust and are always worried that they will turn around and u will be gone. Try telling him what's going on so he can prepare. And maybe have the nanny do something fun with him before or right after you leave.

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Good luck!