To Go or Not

Don't feel awkward...GO! It sounds like they are trying to reach out to you and get to know you better. Go out for a drink or two and if you still feel weird then head home and say you want to caplitalize on the little alone time you get! I don't think it's odd, I think it's nice! Have fun!

Based on your pronoun use, I'm guessing that the "friend" is a man and that's why you're unsure.

Personally, I wouldn't socialize with a male friend without my husband - just as he wouldn't socialize with a female friend without me. It's a mutual respect thing that we are both comfortable with.

But if you're not married and your boyfriend is ok with it, then there's no reason to feel awkward about it. Though I might say that you're feeling awkward because it might not be a good idea..for whatever reason. I'm a big believer in trusting your instincts.

I have male friends and my husband has female friends (both through work) that we lunch with. Are your feelings only friendly towards this guy or do you flirt? From what you have stated there is no conflict except that maybe you would rather do something else? I know from when my kids were little I liked nothing better than a night alone with a long bath, a drink and a sappy movie. Just ME time. If have gone out and come back more exhausted since we stayed out late that I wished I had done my own thing. I have never wished I had gone out with friends after doing my own thing. I can always catch back up with friends but having a night alone in my own home is rare. You have been given the go ahead by bf to do what you like, now you just need to decide what YOU really enjoy most.

I don't understand. What is the problem with going? You have a new friend.

If you want to just be by yourself, then fine.
If you feel like going out and socializing, then fine.
Its up to you.
People socialize with or without their boyfriend or girlfriend.
No biggie.
And your BF is cool with the idea, you are ALL friends, after all.

So you just have to decide if you want to just be by yourself and relax or go out and socialize and relax.

If you enjoy their company, go. Perhaps there is more to the story that isn't written down here.

If it's all men, then I wouldn't go. But if it's a mixture of men and women I would go. It's normal to feel awkward when doing something different. If you enjoy hanging out with them with your boyfriend then you'll probably enjoy their company without him.

If you'd rather stay home and clean, then tell him that you have things you need to do but thank him for the invitation. Maybe next time.

I agree - go! They are reaching out - go have fun. What a compliment that they want to get to know you as a person, and not just as the gf. Go go go!

I know how you feel, when my hubby and I were dating he moved a couple hours away for college and it was weird at first to hang out with our friends that we always were with as a couple, after the first couple of times though it was fine. I say go, what's the worst that can happen? Hope you have fun and enjoy your kids free evening, whatever you do!

Well, it's probably too late, but I say go. I always have more fun on a night out than I think I will, and it's sooo nice to get out of the house without kids!