Give him... a good sense of self.
A sense of being himself....
let him explore, create, think, do..... with his OWN creativity and ideas.
Praise him for it.
Allow him to make mistakes... and how to manage that.
Teach him that there are MANY DIFFERENT ways of doing something. Not only one way.
That he does NOT 'have to' be perfect.
To KNOW "who" he is.... and to be himself, always.
That is what we teach our kids. And they are confident kids who KNOW themselves, very well. Even amongst other kids.
Let him express himself... boys NEED that. To learn that. Good moods or bad moods... to be able to SAY how they feel. Openly, with you. And to be able to TALK about it. Not lecturing about it.
I teach my kids... to KNOW how they feel.... so that they know themselves and can discern that. It is called "emotional intelligence."
For me, I "let" and "allow" my kids to try things... even if I know they don't know how or even if I know they can't do it PERFECTLY. So what. The point is NOT that they do it "perfectly" or even know how... the POINT is that THEY are having fun and exploring and trying..... that is how they gain confidence and a sense of who they are.
THAT is what creates, an independent and self-reliant child.
KNOWING themselves....
And if my kids make a 'mistake' I do NOT focus on that, I focus on how FUN it was just doing it.... and the PROCESS of it.
Being 'independent' does NOT create a "spoiled" child.
Let him do things... without 'hovering.'
all the best,
Susan