My 2 year old daughter is a very sweet and kind little girl. We are having a difficult time getting her to follow instruction and listen to us. I do not believe in spanking her. We have been using time out but she thinks it is a joke. She laughs and acts as if we are playing a game. I know she is trying to exercise her independence, however it is important she understands limits and rules. Any advice? Thanks!
This happened with my 2 year old son, now 3 years. We started taking his favorite toys and putting them in timeout. This worked for us. I would make a big production of gathering up every single one of his trucks and putting them in a big box for time out. Now all I have to do is threaten the time out and he changes his behavior.
time our does not work with my little boy. so, i made a stop light and we move him to yellow after he has been warned, and red if he is really acting up. He knows if on green he gets 2 stories before bed, yellow 1, and red no story. it works b/c he hates to lost his story.
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Hi K.,
My name is S. and my son is 2 1/2, so I know what you are going through. I am not a spanker or much of a yeller. My tone of voice does change, though, when needed. Joseph finds time-out no big deal. I always try and give him a choice. They must be choices you are willing to go through with. Are hardest problems as parents is sticking to our guns. My son also has a couple of toys that he LOVES and when those are threatened to be given a time-out he shapes up. When I put a toy in time-out, I like to keep it in veiw so he remembers why it was taken and is not out of mind. His favorite toy changes so I have to pay attention on a daily basis. I hope this helps and remember thay are 2
and are always seeking attention of some kind!
Hi, I too had the same problem with my son. What I did instead of time out was to take all of his favorite toys away from him for one minute for every age he was, i.e 5 minutes for 5 years old. It worked:)
Good luck
K.
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I would take away her favorite toy for an hour so something like that. Something that she really values.
Good Morning K.,
I do not believe in spanking either but when you time her out
your tone of voice should be firm, do not do it only one time or once in a while then stop she will not understand. I also have a 2/6 months old daughter. She knows when mommy says
"No" it means "No". At this age you have to repeat things over and over (do not get tired)you will see she will catch up.
Thanks for sharing
Have a blessed day!
I'm sorry this is going to be very short. lol. But, www.loveandlogic.com is an awesome way of parenting and they have SO many suggestions. You could probably either buy the book or check it out of the library, depending on how good your library is. IT is wonderful!
Hi,
Try The Discipline Book by Dr. Sears for some other ideas. 2 year olds sometimes just don't understand what time out is for, which can be frustrating for us! :) I think modeling and showing them is much more effective many times, like cleaning up with them, or showing them how to do something. And of course, consistency is essential. Always saying no to whatever it is and eventually they will understand that that isn't okay. It takes them a LONG time to retain things so we have to say the same thing 100 times unfortunately! But the Discipline book says all this and much more,and I find it SOOO helpful!
Good luck!
Sounds normal for a two. You might be able to get some ideas from this site: http://www.saferchild.org/tipsfor4.htm
