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Hi E.,
It's awesome that you are able to be home with your children. :) Try to remember that! There are many women who say they would love to be able to stay home.
I have absolutely no good advice. :) I am in the same boat though, so it is helpful to know that we aren't alone!! I am such a list person, I have a list, and I feel satisfied to cross things off. There are days when nothing gets crossed off, the dishes aren't done, the floor is dirty, the clean clothes are sitting in the laundry basket for the third day in a row. I just run out of time, energy, and just don't care as much after a long day.
I guess I should try to put "spend time with my kids", "love my kids", "teach my kids about life", on my list. I'll have years to do dishes, and not enough time to hug my babies. I know, it's hard to feel like that all the time. Remember though, your kids are not measuring you on how "on top" of things you are. They want you, just like you are. A manicure would sure sweeten the pot though, wouldn't it? There's a hint for a good holiday gift.
good luck, hang in there!