Three Year Old That Talkes Alot !!! Plz Help

You will miss it when he's a teenager and he stops talking to you. Which he will.

Just say, "Mmm hmmm," and "oh really" and things like that, and enjoy it.

I agree with everyone. My 8 almost 9yr old talks so much she tells herself she needs to stop talking. she was also delayed in talking so we are so happy that she has found her voice. there are way to many good guys out there. please dont settle.

I don't know the history of this relationship, but if the man you are engaged to cannot deal with a child being a normal child, then you may want to re-think marrying him. Do NOT put a man before your child. Really look at how he treats your son. Take parenting classes together, because if you're lucky the man just doesn't understand child development. If he's not willing to become a parent and just wants to be a dictator, then you are right to question. I wish you the best in figuring this out.

Hi! Talking is a wonderful thing, communication is good. I'm sorry but what you need to question is the future step-dad. If talking bothers him now what next? Kids are kids, you really want to encourage them not stunt them. They have a lot to say and you have a lot to teach them, conversation is the way to educate a small child. Encourage don't discourage.

Welcome to mamapedia..

The sign of a good talker, means a very bright child.

I had to "Give permission" to our daughter to not "Have" to talk all of the time.

She could be a talker.. Not sure where she got it from (me!) ...

Anyway one day in the car, I told her, "You know what? It is ok, to sometimes not to have to talk. It is nice to just be with each other quietly."

I also spoke with her about being polite with our talking.

We do not talk while we are watching a video or a television show.

We do not talk while others are on the phone.

If we ask a question, we wait for an answer.

When grown ups are speaking, we wait for them to stop talking and then say "Excuse me, I need to ask you something" Or "Excuse me, I need to tell you something. "

Your son has learned to communicate. He is excited to know the answers,

He can now express his needs. This is a good thing, now he just needs to learn the social rules.

I'm a little confused by your question. Is the main problem that your fiance thinks your son talks too much and expects him to be quiet all the time? If so, I think you need to give some very serious thought about whether this is the man you want raising your child. It's going to be a long time before your son stops talking incessantly and you don't want the problem between your son and your fiance to escalate as time goes on.

It is ok to try to teach your son to be respectful about when he talks (not interrupting conversations), but it is not realistic to expect him to stop talking.

Do you think your fiance can love your son and act as a true father to him? Will he treat him well, be loving and nurturing? Will he play with him and give him the attention a little boy deserves from a father? If not, maybe he is not the right man for you.

Hi M.,
This would be a big red flag to me in terms of marrying this man who thinks that your son talks too much. I would seriously step back and reassess your relationship or this new father figure could possibly emotionally damage your very young child. What exactly is going on while you are at work and your fiance has him? Food for thought. At the very least, do not marry him until he's enrolled in parenting classes and understands and ACCEPTS that a chattterbug 3 year old is totally normal. Good luck.

I take it soon to be Dad doesn't have children of his own and if he does, they don't live with him.

It is a talkative age as they are learning. You don't want to stifle that. It does get annoying, however, you have to answer the questions because they absorb so much during this stage.

Maybe Dad needs a parenting class. It may insult him, but in the long run, it may help him understand the reason for all the talking.

Best wishes.

When he gets home your son HAS to be quiet? He's only three! He's a little boy! He SHOULD be talking! He's excited about life and being alive. He's happy. He's developmentally on target. Why in the world would your fiance want to squash that and break his spirit?

Please don't choose this man over your son. Don't make your son change because your son sounds like a delightful little boy.

EDIT: The more I think about this thread, the more upset I get. Please don't marry this guy. Your son is more important. And please, PLEASE don't have any children with him. He won't treat his own flesh and blood any better.

You are questioning everything for a reason. Children talk. I tell my son to be quiet all the time too, it happens. I also give him times to talk as much as he can as fast as he can as well as times to see just how long he can go being quiet (35:43 and he is 5) when REALLY TRYING. Here is the thing, kids have a condition called verbal diarriah (sp). If your fiance can not handle it, and it is causing issues - and you are putting him before your child is this okay?

Sounds like the soon-to-be step dad needs parenting classes, or isn't the right guy for you. This is normal for that age. I had a 3 year old and two 2 year olds...things were crazy around here! Did I want some peace and quiet? Sure. Did I make them be quiet so I could get it? No! I encouraged them to ask their questions and then when daddy got home I took a hot bath!

My son hasnt stopped talking and he is 7. Its who he is (yes sometimes it is overwhelming) but I am personally scared that if I stop him he will clam up and not be able to express himself. I am glad he is talkative and open and loves to share himself to the world and the world to everyone else. Some kids are quiet, some kids are not. Mine is not, yours is not and its something his stepdad needs to learn how to embrace and deal with.

Most kids are pretty talkative, especially at his age. If your bf has a problem with it, then he's probably not a good fit for you and your son.

I would much rather have a talkative child then a quiet, reserved child. I've lived with talkative and have known quiet reserved children. I'll take mine anyday!

What LeeLee said. And probably others. I didn't read all of the responses.

The fact that your son's talking is "causing a problem" with his soon-to-be-stepdad is disturbing. We should encourage our 3 year olds TO talk. Not stop them from talking. This is how they develop a good vocabulary and learn how to speak clearly. Excessive talking at that age is wonderful! If his non-stop talking is causing your fiance to scold/yell at him then he obviously has some issues with his temper. If he is taking it out on you, then same thing. This man obviously is an angry person. Me, personally, I would break up with him. He might try to change if you speak up about this, but I would take this as a warning sign. We are who we are. Even if he changes in the short term to appease you, I would worry that his true personality will come out again later down the road. Best of luck to you and your precious talkative boy.

It is perfectly normal for them to talk constantly. When DS was that age I don't think he was quiet unless he was actually asleep. We did practice taking turns talking (frustrating for him, but he did learn it) and we occasionally had 5 minute breaks with no talking for anyone (so my head did not actually explode).

I'm going to be honest, my initial reaction was that your fiance seems to have a problem with your child.

Somet kiddos really do talk non-stop and it can be overwhelming at times. Does he constantly ask questions? You might tell him something like "one more question until the clock says 6" or something like that. I had a friend who had to do this with her son because she got to the point that she felt like her brain would explode. Her son would ask question after question, almost asking another completely different question before the first one was completely answered.

Do think about your son and the step-dad situation.

M