ok i am a high risk pregancy should we try for number 2 i had a 4th degree episotomy and i am scared to death but since we have this info should we do it again
i have high blood pressure at first thought they thought it was pregancy induced hypertension been on meds for the last 4 yrs and the a hole dr told me when i had my first that he was planning on a c section but then ended up cutting me up lol i have small pelvic bone and my daughter basically got caught on the pelvic bone and they ended up ripping her out of me that is what cause the 4th degree tear plus i am a little heavy but i am willing to go thru it again i am to young to only have 1 child and why should i let one dr affect how big my family is i think the reason he did it beacause my husband and i werent married at the time we were engaged but not married
Ok we decied to go for it i talked to my family dr today and she doesnt have a problem with it she does want me to use condoms for at least 6 months to get my weight down so we will see in 6 months oh and she wants me when it comes time to get a high risk obgyn
My sister had a 4th degree tear and her doctor said she should do a planned c-section for her 2nd child. He said that she may risk losing bowel control if she tore again with her 2nd child.
First you should consult your ob and see what they think about having #2. I have one baby (8 mo.)and that pregnancy turned high risk at 28 weeks and they say that my next pregnancies will be higher risk. I fully intend on trying for #2 when the time is right. I have great confidence in my doctor and now that we know what the problem is we can watch it from the get go. Also, you have to think about how badly you want another child and what you would go through to have him or her. If it's worth it to you and your doctor approves then go for it. It's only 9 months. That's my take on it anyway. Good luck and very best wishes whichever way you decide.
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I'd get a second opinion if you have doubts on what your doctor is telling you.
I didn't have the experience that you did but I did have a ruptured molar pregnancy my first time around along with chemo treatments. When I was pregnant with my second child, a specialist told me that I should reconsider having anymore kids because my uterine wall was extremely thin. I was heartbroken at the thought of not having anymore kids. So I can sympathize. After long thoughts, I decided not to have anymore kids. I wanted to make sure that I was around to take care of the 2 that I had.
Good luck with your decision. It is definitely hard when you want to have a second child.
I would definitely seek a second opinion.
I'm not sure what your high risk was with our first, but when I had my first, my doctor told me she had to cut me at a "4" for my episotomy. mostly because my daughter was just under 9lbs. When I had my 2nd, my doctor said I didn't need one at all and I tore slightly, but it was so small she gave me one stitch. Discuss with your doc and hubby about the reason for your "high risk" situation and if you are healthy enough for another pregnancy.
It sounds like you had a rough time of it, but made it through. I am also high risk due to a clotting disorder . I have to give myself shots everyday when pregnant and there are multiple risks to my child, but I like you, wanted another child. I am proud to say that I took the risk and 3 months ago gave birth to a healthy baby girl! My 2 year old son, husband, and I could not be more happy to have this beautiful addition to our family. Although it is a personal choice, I would definitely think about having a 2nd child!! Maybe you could talk to your doctor first and see about your risks and having a c-section for sure the second time around! Good luck to you and yours:)
Always check with your Dr. to make sure you'll be fine during the pregnancy. As long as your high risks are things that can be monitered and controlled with no problem, then you should be fine. I'd def consult with a couple OBs till you find one you like, and get their input. I don't see why you shouldn't be able to have another baby if that's what you choose... Good Luck and hope it works out!!
I don't know what your high risk is but I would talk to your doctor and see what he thinks. I didn't have any problems with my first baby except for the morning sickness now with my second one that is when I was high risk with alot of things and I had episiotomys with both and tore bad with both and with the second one I had a huge hematoma after not fun. Not saying any of this to scare you but to let you know that things will turn out the way the are planned. Both of my babies turned out just fine and healthy!! Good luck S.
If you don't agree with what your M.D. is saying get a second opinion. I am sure that you are not the first person that was not married and had a baby in his practice. Being 32 is already putting you at high risk, being overweight is putting you at high risk, being on meds for blood pressure problems put you at high risk. I can see wanting another baby, get a second opinion and make sure you take your medical records with you. that way the new doctor has both sides of the story. Sometimes doct. don't always tell you how bad it really is. no need to lose your life over it.
