There Are Spiders in My Bed Mommy!!!!

I agree with letting her sleep with you for a while. I have always been scared of something, and sometimes it seems so real. I remember being terrified of ghosts for a while. I couldn't sleep AT ALL. My mom let me sleep with her and I was fine. I slept with her for about a week and a half and then I decided that I was OK to go back to my own bed. I can't even imagine if she did some sort of tough love with me. Becasue to me it was very real and very scary.

I also like the suggestion of the spider spray too!

go buy a cheap spray bottle, put some water and glitter and jewel confetti in it, on the out side of the bottle draw a big circle and draw a spider in the middle of it then draw a line through it..write on the bottle SPIDER BE GONE SPRAY .. or something of that effect, then let her spritz it all around her room, it wont hurt anything.
you ccan also make Monster be gone spray or good dream spray..etc

I love Aleisha I's suggestion for "spider be gone spray"! My daughter (3 1/2) went thru a similar thing with Monsters. The first time she told me, I made like I was furious and asked her who let them in? Then promptly picked up the phone to call the "monster mommy" and tell her to promptly pick up her monsters....they would be waiting on the porch. She giggled and thought it was funny.

It probably makes her feel better to be close to you right now, how about negotiating with her that she can sleep in your bed til you go to bed then you can move her? If she is too big for you to carry.....can you lay in her bed with her for a few minutes, then tell her you'll be back to check on her and lay down again if needbe....of course, you wait til she is asleep. Just a thought.

Good luck, you two will get thru this together. Hugs to you both!

Ditto with Lee P.'s suggestion. At least for a little while. She's probably telling you that she needs extra assurance/love.

Aw..poor thing! I would just let her sleep with me, if it was me. Good luck!

I go through this with my daughter every time her dad deploys. For about 3 weeks she sleeps in my bed. Even though we know there are no bugs in her bed showing her doesn't help because what is really happening is she is scared and can't express what she is feeling. If you can sleep with her in your bed let her sleep there until she knows that she is safe and I have a feeling the spiders will go away. Contrary to what some people believe children who slept with their parent don't develop any long term problems so relax, cuddle and get some rest. Good luck!

Let her sleep with you.

Keep reassuring her that you love her and that you understand that this change is different for her. Does she get to see her dad often, if so have him help if he is willing. He also needs to let her know that he loves her and that she is not responsible for the two of you splitting. I realize you need sleep but be patient, she is young and this is a MAJOR change. She has been removed from the only home she has known to this strange place without her daddy(protector) in her eyes. Hope this helps.

not that this will help you, but I found myself waking up several times with visions of a spider coming down from the bedroom ceiling. I know I was wide awake and I swear I saw it. Because I saw it land on our the blanket, I started shaking out the blanket in hopes of getting the spider off the bed. I woke up my husband who then turned on the light and we searched and couldn't find anything. Several weeks later, it happened again. This time when my husband woke up, he asked me if he could see his hand. I said no (as it was pitch dark out) and he said then there would be no way I could see a spider drop from the ceiling (very good point). He told me to go back to sleep and we'd discuss this in the morning.

the next day, we determined that I must have been dreaming that a spider was coming down and must have woken up at the exact time I saw it dropping. So, for me, I knew I saw it, but the reality of it was it was just a dream.

All in all, it happened 3-4 times and each time, he just told me to go back to bed.

Now, if she's getting bites, you may have bed bugs.

~C.

Call her pediatrician. Seeing spiders and feeling like she's been bit is a psychological issue that needs to be address right away before she becomes more fearful. If this were happening with an adult, I'd recommend immediately seeing a psychiatrist because it can be a symptom of a psychosis. I think she may need medication to calm her nervous system.

I also recommend that you let her sleep with you. If sleeping with you makes the spiders and bug bites go away then you've found a solution without seeing the doctor.

EAch of our bodies react differently to stress. Seeing things and feeling things that aren't there is one way that most often requires medical intervention. She is not just imagining this. Her nervous system is actually seeing and feeling these things.

I would start a routine or ritual with her. Sprinkle the room with imaginary fairy dust to protect her while she sleeps and in the morning have her fling back her covers to show that there are no spiders and that it worked! I hate spiders too, good luck!