For years we would have Thanksgiving over my Aunts house. We have a huge Italian family so turkey and potatoes was NEVER enough! We always had soup to start, then lasagna or ravioli, and THEN we would move on to the traditional "fixings" of a Thanksgiving feast. The greenbeans were always done Italian style with garlic and oil and we always had homemade stuffing AND stovetop (to add a little American flair). I happen to prefer stovetop to my Aunt's stuffing.
Now that the family has gotten SOOO big we have sort of split up. My sister-in-law and I rotate each year. One year I do TG and she gets Christmas then we switch the next year. She tends to stick with the Italian style TG while I like to keep it simple and stick to the main stuff.
I like to make my greenbean casserole a day ahead along with the sweetpotato casserole and the mashed potatoes. I also prep my ingreedients to jazz up my stovetop stuffing (chop, peel, etc.) and get my turkey dressed and ready for the oven. I don't stuff my turkey with stuffing. I put onions, celery, and carrots in there instead. I have always just been "weird" about sruffing from the bird.
I try to have guests bring the dessert and I will make one of my own or buy a pie. Then all I have to do is get up early to pop the turkey in, toss a small ham in the crock-pot, go back to bed for a bit (I get a large turkey) and then wake up stress free to the smell of Turkey in the oven!
I think it's key to prep ahead of time and get as much cooked or partially cooked a day or three in advance so all you need to do is reheat everything.
I also will put out some munchies like cheese, crackers and the like.
This is making me want to cook!