A.C.
Meats (and menus) change from year to year, though my all-time favorite is a deep fried CAJUN turkey and I can save some leftovers to make a gumbo afterwards...but sometimes it's honeybaked ham, roasted turkey, cornish hens cooked different ways (sometimes with/without fruit, or whatever), CAJUN fried turkey (just plain turkey won't do, it needs to be injected with deliciousness), prime rib, whatever.
For ham or poultry dinners, I love to make spinach madeline, whole berry cranberry sauce, corn casserole, roasted sweet potatoes with a little butter and cinnamon (though the lady that mentioned pecan, raisin, and brown sugar certainly caught my attention!), sometimes for prime rib or some other meat, we'll do green bean casserole, we'll roast or broil some vegetables (carrots, celery, onion, etc), mashed potatoes and gravy.
Appetizers can be anything: a relish tray, deviled eggs, warm baguettes with spinach artichoke dip, etc.
Desserts I like to do a pumpkin cheesecake, or a blackforest cake. We seem to rotate between pumpkin, pecan, and apple pies. I also do a wonderful autumn cheesecake (gingersnaps for crust, cheesecake topped with cinnamon apples, chopped pecans, and MAYBE a hint of caramel drizzled over it) if we're having guests. We usually pick 2 of those as a family and then next year, another 2.