C.L.
Hi M.
I have a two year old and just had a lillte boy on May 2nd. I know what you are going thru. She knows that something is going on and that Mommy isn't her normal self. What we did before the baby came was transistion him out of the crib into a toddler bed. It is the same size as the crib mattress, and it made him feel special. We left it in his room for a few weeks, then let him take naps in it and one night he said he wanted to sleep in his racecar bed. That was it.
He started to yell at me and tell me NO when I asked him to do something. What I have found is that I warn him that if he does it again, I will take something from him, (fav. toy or video) for the day.(then he cries, ok he wails) After I take the toy away and if the behavior continues- he goes in his room for time out. I wait until the wailing slows down, have him sit on the bed and talk to him softly about why he is in the room for time out and what will happen when he does the behavior again. It seems to be working.
We also spoke to the Dr. and he said that the best thing to do is to stick to the routine as much as possible. Esp when the baby arrives. It seemed to be the best advice so far.