Terrible Two's....

I regrettably announced to my children that mommy's ears can't hear/ understand whiney voices. I then proceeded to ignore the whining until an effort was made to speak in a more acceptable tone of voice and words. Then I praised, praised praised and made it a joke...like "NOW I CAN HEAR YOU....I COULDN"T BEFORE!"

i know how you feel. my oldest is also 2. i've been told by everyone that it's normal.

Tell her that Mommy doesn't undersand (or speak) whining and if she really needs to tell you something, then she has to speak in a normal tone. When she has to repeat herself several time she'll get the point and phase the whining out.

My suggestion is consistancy with letting her know that she has to ask for something without the whining. Explain to her that you will not get anything that she wants as long as she is whining. When she sees that the whining isn't going to get her way, she will stop. It may take some time...but consistancy with reminding her of the rules and following through will pay off in the long run. Good luck.

I always told my daughter that I couldn't understand what she was saying and that she needed to take a deep breath and try again. I know it sounds awful, but it was kinda cute. She would come in half in tears winning about something and I would tell her I couldn't understand her when she talked like that. I would tell her to take a deep breath and try again. She would pause, take a huge breath and then tell me what she wanted. Somedays she would have to take a couple of breaths, but within a month we were done with the winning. We still use it though if someone took her toy or whatever she was upset about. It has helped her learn how to stay in control of herself.

Consistent advice to the other posters... I always tell him he has to speak to me nicely or I won't give him whatever it is. It helps with whining and more often in our house, yelling.

I then ignore him until his voice changes to how I like to be spoken to.

my sister in law tells her kids that she can't understand them when they whine. if they want or need something they have to use thier big girl/boy voices and words. it generally works after a few minutes of ignoring them.

Hi I am a mother a boy that is 4. We did the "I don't understand you talk that way." But we also have a whinning chair. He must stay in the chair until his voice changes. He does better and he will change his voice because I will not answer him. I hope it gets better. Whinning is the worse

When ever my daugther does that we say we wont talk to her until she talks in a big girl voice... at first we kinda had to show her what that meant but now it works great as soon as she starts to whine/throw a fit we "turn off our ears" to her

My advice is pretty much what everyone else has said, lol, but I'll offer it anyway!

When our children did this we simply told them in a calm voice, "I cannot understand you when you whine. Ask me in a calm voice." This or some variation usually worked. Don't be discouraged if it takes a few tries to catch on. You may need to show them the difference. Make a joke out of it. Whine and ask them something...say something like "see how silly mommy sounds?" Then say the same thing in a calm/normal voice. Good Luck!

This is the thing abuot terrible twos...it starts when they're about a year and a half and it's like the energizer bunny...it goes on and on and on...lol. On the bright side, the older they get the more you think they outgrew it...all it really is, you dont' notice it so much because they're at school with their friends and by the time they're 18 they moved out...lol...just joking. Ok, seriously...the kid just needs to learn self control and that the whining isn't acceptable. When you're two year old whines, just tell him/her that you can't understand what is being said for all the whining and to stop whining then talk to you. If the whining persists then send him/her to his/her room until he/she can stop the whining. If he/she comes back after going to the room and is still whining, send the child back to the room. You have to be consistant with this and it may take a couple weeks or so, but the lesson will be learned and after a while you only need to remind him/her occasionally.

The best advice I can give you came from my mother. She says;

They are constantly going in and out of phases....so don't worry, it is just a phase. Just as soon as you focus on it, it will be something else. Stay calm, and tell her it is not the best way for her to get what she wants. Explain to her that you respond much better to a nicely behaved little girl.

I broke my daughter by telling her the right way to ask for things and not giving it to her until she asked the right way. It really worked for us pretty well. I think it is a girls thing!

Great question! My daughter, who turns two at the end of the month is doing the exact same thing. Everytime she whines, I make her explain what she wants and ask her not to whine. Hasn't worked yet, but I'm hoping it will sooner or later!