Temporary Custody

Updated on July 19, 2007
S.G. asks from Toledo, OH
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My husband's cousin and his girlfriend lost custody of their 3,2 and 1 year old to Lucas county children services back in Feb. So we decided to take them in, along with our two young chidren. We are not rich to begin with and we told CSB of our situation. They assured us that everything would be provided for.
The first month we had gotton everything that you could possibly need. Blankets,cribs,clothes,shoes and so on. We even got a small amount for a food.
After that it was all down hill. You had to practically beg for diapers. They told us to go apply for cash assistance in the childrens name. We did, and we get $400 a month, no food stamps though some how dependent children are not eligible. This is what we have to take care of three extra children.
Is it me or does our system suck!? My husband works and I am a stay at home mother. We bought a bigger home, we even purchased a van to transport the whole family. I am in need of some advice on how to handle this before it gets out of control!

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I contacted the Caseworker and her supervisor. I contacted the GAL. No one could help. They suggested that I get a job or call a church for food. Thank you for all the suggestions though!

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C.A.

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post your requests on freecycle.org join the Local Toledo page and you could post messages for what you need and there are lots of generous people that could help you out, you can also get any offers out there sent right to your inbox too, that way you just have to check your inbox and see what is being given away on a daily basis. Hope this helps. Good Luck, my parents did this for four relative placements when I was a kid, so I know what you are going through. ou are in my prayers.

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T.D.

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Kudos to you and your husband for your kindness and generosity. You have quite a challenge ahead. Working with 5 children would not even cover your daycare expenses. I did work with a girl who took custody of her nephew and received additional assistance through the Kinship program and also WIC. It is worth looking into. Churches and the Salvation Army could also be of assistance. For clothing try Goodwill when they have 1/2 off or $.99 kids clothes. We are definitely not well off and I find some great deals there for both of my kids. You can also luck out at Consignment shops.
Good luck and God Bless You and your Family.

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M.R.

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You might try to call the kids' GAL, Guardian Ad Litem. This is a rep for the kids....he/she might be able to help you navigate the system and get some more for the kids. If you can't get food stamps, you should at the very LEAST be able to get WIC for the kids (and Medicaid for that matter). Call the WIC office ASAP and get them on it...they are usually really friendly and can help you out. Also, try try try to call the caseworker and explain the situation. If you can't get through to the CW, then ask to speak to his/her boss. Keep going up the chain until something happens. I know it's hard to keep on the phone all day, especially with five kids, but you are doing this for the kids...they deserve the assistance as much as you need it. Also, while you have them on the phone, ask for clothing vouchers...and if you're okay second hand shopping, they go a lot farther if you get at least half of the amount for Once Upon a Child. Aim high and keep the kids' needs as top priority when you are talking to the caseworker or GAL. Good luck!

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D.Q.

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I feel your pain, I have been there myself. I was placed with my then-infant niece over two years ago, I adopted her last summer. I have also been a foster parent and have dealt with LCCS in the capacity of a CASA. Needless to say, I understand how difficult they are to deal with.

I see that your heading is "temporary custody," and I'm assuming that you have temporary custody of the children. Unfortuneately, once a family member takes temp custody, LCCS has little interest in providing any further assistance to them. Since the children are not in LCCS custody and not in a foster home the agency doesn't feel that assisting the children with necessities are their responsibility. Although agreeing to take temp custody of the children probably seemed like the most natural thing in the world to you (and maybe it even made you feel more secure in having them), it was probably the worst thing you could have done if you needed assistance - and LCCS knew that but still probably told you that taking custody was a good thing.

My only advice at this point is to continue to make a racket and to make it as far up the chain of command as necessary. If you can, leave a paper trail - send letters to the case worker and cc them to the case worker's supervisor, the unit supervisor and the director, Dean Sparks. If the children have a CASA or a GAL (guardian ad litem) make sure they know of your problems as well as they are there to look out for the children's best interests --and getting diapers surely falls into that category.

You may also want to contact Kinship Navigator if you haven't already. It's a program run through the Area Office of Aging that's devoted to assisting families who have kinship placements such as yours. I've never really utilized their services but they offer monthly support groups, respite care, and referrals to services. At the very least I'm sure you will find them to be a group of people sympathetic to your plight and possibly able to help with services.

If you are really in need of diapers and have no other way of getting them, a church I have attended occasionally has a toiletry pantry one or two Saturdays per month - they are always looking for diapers to stock it so you may be able to get some there. The church is First Unitarian Universalist, it's located at Bancroft and Collingwood in the Old West End. You may also want to check garage sales and Ebay for "leftover" diapers people are trying to sell because their children out grew the size (not my first choice for getting diapers either, but diapers are diapers no matter where they come from).

Hope this helped. Please contact me if there is anything else I can help with.

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