Teen Daughters and Tongue-pierced New Girlfriend of the Ex Husband?

seriously? a third question about this?

i think you need to get a few more piercings and a nice young bf who has lots of holes too.
khairete
S.

Yes, I would be extremely suspicious of a 20-something, dating my 40-something ex husband. Not because of the tongue piercing, but because of the age difference.

There is no good end to a relationship like this . . . you have daddy issues and your new "boyfriend" is having a mid-life crisis. Sadly, his children will be the ones to pay the price.

Ask yourself why YOU are ok dating a man this much older than you and then move on to someone your own age.

G.

Welcome to mamapedia.

If your ex husband is dating a younger W. - you have no say in it.

Not sure how she could "CONTAMINATE" your daughter. You think she's going to encourage her to get tattoos and piercings?? WHAT exactly is your problem?

I won't tell my ex-husband's new wife what to wear. That's NOT MY PLACE. it's MY job to teach MY child HOW to dress and look respectable. If tattoos and piercings do NOT work for you? You tell your child what you don't like about it.

Don't judge a book by its cover.

It's not the tattoos and tongue piercings that are the problem. The problem is that you are too young to date a guy 20 years older than you. I promise you this probably won't work out long-term. You should look for someone closer to your own age.

I would be more worried about what lessons my teens are learning seeing their father "date" a women that is basically their age and what that says.

These questions aren't making much sense to me this morning (maybe I need more coffee) but here goes....

I am not an ex, however have friends who are. They are happy when their exes have new partners who are positive, and encouraging role models and supportive of their children.

I don't think they are caught up in appearances. I have not heard that anyhow, from my friends. It's about how their children are treated. Some have children who are teenagers. They just want to be sure their children are not cast aside (attention, etc.) for the new love interest/partner.

Does that help?

This sounds really weird - that you're so concerned about a tongue piercing.

Would I appreciate if you didn't wear it?

My kids have older cousins who have tattoos and piercings. I would never ask them to cover or remove what they have or wear - if that helps.

so your fiance's ex wife is 40? and he's 20 years older than you? are you even old enough for him to take you out to drink??

Get your English down.
Get your priorities straight.

Yes, I'm answering this as I have found out that you are really young and the "Girlfriend" NOT the ex-wife you are portraying yourself here.

I know it hurts to be traded in for someone younger. But I would care less about physical appearances or hair. I have a few tattoos myself.Does she treat you daughter well? Does she cause drama between you and your ex? Does she encourage your daughter to engage in bad behavior?That would be my worry.

We have moms of all ages here - young and very new to grandparents and maybe some great grandparents.
I would not venture to guess the age range is anywhere near 30-40 yrs old.

Here are some common risks of oral piercing that you may not know about:

Millions of bacteria live in your mouth, so oral piercings may become infected easily.
Your tongue -- the most popular piercing site in the mouth -- could swell large enough to block your airway.
Piercing can cause uncontrollable bleeding and nerve damage.
You can choke on studs, barbells or hoops that come loose in your mouth.
Teeth can chip or crack from contact with the jewelry.
Bacteria that breeds around your piercing can cause bad breath.

In fact, The National Institutes of Health has identified piercing as possible route for the transmission of hepatitis.

Brilliant choice you've made there!
By all means go ahead and flaunt it.